we all go through trauma, i am not undermining or taking the tragedy of what happened to you away by saying that at some point we must take responsibility for our own lives, and all the things in it (probably in our 20s, hopefully after our brain has settled). That doesn’t mean you take responsibility for the SA, that means you take responsibility for what is your value system? Do your daily actions reflect that? Have you thought through your own behavior and how it contributes to who you date or have dated? How do you think of yourself? What gives you self esteem? Those are all things you have to take on the responsibility of, and your SA tragedy now cannot be an answer or responsible for the answers to those questions. Essentially this meme making fun of this hypothetical woman and your response are being ridiculed here in part because it paints a picture of a woman on the dating market who is is full of contradictory behaviors, has an inflated or misguided sense of self, and creates a chaotic and unstable partner in a relationship.