My grandpa’s brother had a project car he was working on when he got drafted for Vietnam, and he unfortunately died over there and the car just sat there in his parents’ garage collecting dust. They couldn’t bear to get rid of it and his dad (my great-grandpa) thought about fixing it up but it was his and his son’s “thing” and it just made him so sad.
He knew he couldn’t mess with it without being depressed so they took it to a mechanic and then planned on selling it for cheap to a young family across the street who would make good use of it. Seemed like the right thing to do. Well, great-grandpa drops it off at the shop and maybe ten minutes after he gets home, he gets a frantic call from the mechanic.
Turns out, my grand-uncle (if that term is a thing) was in the trunk. He had made a tiny little hidey hole in the car so he didn’t have to go die for Richard Nixon. It has been several years so they were all very surprised. Everyone was also very impressed, and thus started his career in magic. He eventually planned to lock himself in a trunk and go over Niagara Falls but drowned in the bathtub practicing. He was a shit magician, but it still beats dying in Vietnam.
There’s a show in the uk called “Car S.O.S” which is literally this except the cars belong to people who are typically terminally ill or old or in some way unable to finish it, and their families have written in with the intention of the show surprising them with the finished car at the end.
I really like this show and what it does, but I can’t help but think that half the joy in owning a project car is the doing up of it and now that’s effectively been taken away from them
Many autistic people not only hate surprises, we are often confused and unnerved by them. A surprise for an autistic person usually means a change in calming and centering routines, unfamiliar sensory input, unrehearsed social situations and expectations, and little to no processing time between what’s comfortable and familiar and what’s new and different.
I am autistic but can see how taking somebody’s item and having alterations done to it without asking would be considered a problem even by neurotypical people. She even acknowledged “it’s super rough looking, but he loves it.” I’m assuming he had the $ to fix it himself if he wanted to.
Anon isn't an asshole for trying to help, however, they completely missed why it mattered for the husband to fix it himself. The repair process was part of the emotional, sentimental value. Even if the end result wasn't perfect, the point was that it was his work and effort put into it. That is rewarding in itself.
But the anon is an asshole for making this about themselves.
Jesus Fuck look up the definition of words before using them. This isn't narcissistic AT ALL.
Self pitying, if you want to bash on someone who's already feeling guilty and venting anonymously, but a narso would ABSOLUTELY blame the boyfriend with no subtlety, especially online.
Also for the sake of all the boiled, broiled, fried and sundried fucks if we could collectively drop the therapy speak and stop diagnosing shit in people based on few lines of text it would be a breath of fresh air.
If you are at the point of feeling like you "can't do anything right", you should stop doing stuff without making sure the results match your intentions. In this case: ask first.
I think it’s a sweet idea and all the people being angry about not touching other people’s stuff are bitter and need to touch grass. She just had it repaired, it’s still the same guitar. Ops partner doesn’t appreciate it’s nice to have someone caring for you and your interests.
You've obviously never poured time and devotion into a project that meant something to you. If I had to guess you've never owned an instrument either because myself and anyone I've known treat their instruments like sacred relics
Eh, after the first few dings it just gets tossed in the back of the car hahaha, electric guitar is harder to break than most though, and its still my most valued possession, just doesn't get that value from a perfect body
She thought it looked ugly and paid to get it resurfaced/painted. He probably liked the look it had. You don't mess with peoples shit because you don't like how it looks
It really depends on what she meant by "take it to a pro to fix it". If it was just replacing some of the pots/fixing a sketchy jack on an electric, I doubt he would have reacted that way.
If it was a 'fix' to the finish of the guitar... I think most guitarists would be pretty pissed. That would basically completely destroy its character, so no it wouldn't really be the same guitar anymore.
Yes and no. Yes for caring, no for touching someone's stuff without their permission and doing irreversible changes to it. I would be mad if someone fixed something I had loved as is.
They wouldnt necessarily be an asshole for touching it, but then they made physical modifications to the guitar. That crosses the line imo. What if he liked the tone it had and the mods changed how it resonates? What if he wanted to fix it himself? Hell, what if he wanted to do anything at all to it but now feels like he cant because he’s now obligated to keep it as is?
$200 is probably just a setup, so it wouldn't change any parts or the tone, unless you really liked the way a certain fret was rubbing or something haha, wanted a bend to choke out at the perfect spot. The obligation bit might be it, or yeah that he just wanted to do it himself
You clearly hadn't lived with someone else close before. Touching each other's stuff is inevitable. Modifying it is another story, it should have been discussed. But I suppose she wanted to make a surprise.
It depends, no? Besides, the OP didn't even mention the country they were from. $200 in the US might not be a lot, in another country it might be more than enough. I use dollars as a currency bc nobody would get how much I'm paying if I use my native one.
She did. Nobody goes out of their way to do something like this just on a whim. To be fair, she probably thought what would make her happy so she did the same to her partner, but he had different ideas about this. He handled it pretty well, some might have lashed out and it could easily turn into an argument. She also noticed that he was sad, which means she does care.
Them specifying how much it costs as a subconscious justification for why the BF should be thankful and them ending it with a pity party for themself after fucking up their husband's guitar both say more about anon than every direct sentence combined did.
I think it's more about having your personal project done without your consent by a stranger than about if it looks good or not. Key words: "but it loves it". Every imperfection is a memory, now the guitar looks like any regular guitar
For $200 you're probably just getting a setup and some oil or whatever, no new parts, definitely no body work filling in dings or whatever. Just intonation, new strings, action, truss rod, wiring, and fretwork if necessary. Maybe he was looking forward to resoldering the input or something?
Reminds me of a similar story years ago where a girlfriend traded in her BF’s Xbox 360 for an XBone, thinking he’d appreciate the upgrade. He lost all his thousands of hours of local saves in the process.
Judging by saying she knew he repaired it himself I feel like she should've gleaned that it was special because he repaired it himself. Unless she only thought of this after the fact she should've had an inkling.
Thing is a lot of guys (people in general do this but guys especially) don't explicitly state things like this because it sounds corny and we like to be nonchalant.
The thought is nice but not everyone wants that, I don't even play an instrument and can tell that what she did was the same as giving her husband's save file to someone so they could beat a boss for him.
yes you are trying to be nice. but you didn't take the other persons feelings into consideration.
this seems more like you did what YOU wanted and not what HE wanted.
you wanted the guitar fixed because YOU thought it looked rough.
what did he think of it?
you fixed his guitar but you broke something else.
There are many guitars that are famous for being kind of fucked up, like Willie Nelson's Trigger. It adds to the character, the story, and the sound. Getting it "professionally fixed" can ruin all of that
As someone with a jazz degree majoring in guitar, my fingers have been plenty greasy over the twenty years of playing. What's that got to do with anything?
I wouldn't say it like that, she has her heart in the right place but failed to consider that her boyfriend wouldn't like it because of the sentimental value of the guitar
Gaymers_Rising@reddit
it's kinda like taking someone's project car to a mechanic
thr33beggars@reddit
My grandpa’s brother had a project car he was working on when he got drafted for Vietnam, and he unfortunately died over there and the car just sat there in his parents’ garage collecting dust. They couldn’t bear to get rid of it and his dad (my great-grandpa) thought about fixing it up but it was his and his son’s “thing” and it just made him so sad.
He knew he couldn’t mess with it without being depressed so they took it to a mechanic and then planned on selling it for cheap to a young family across the street who would make good use of it. Seemed like the right thing to do. Well, great-grandpa drops it off at the shop and maybe ten minutes after he gets home, he gets a frantic call from the mechanic.
Turns out, my grand-uncle (if that term is a thing) was in the trunk. He had made a tiny little hidey hole in the car so he didn’t have to go die for Richard Nixon. It has been several years so they were all very surprised. Everyone was also very impressed, and thus started his career in magic. He eventually planned to lock himself in a trunk and go over Niagara Falls but drowned in the bathtub practicing. He was a shit magician, but it still beats dying in Vietnam.
RyanGreatly@reddit
But if he died in the trunk of the car, who died over there in Vietnam
Gaymers_Rising@reddit
he didn't die in the trunk of the car
yaboyACbreezy@reddit
Then who was phone??
zorkempire@reddit
The call was coming from inside the trunk!
AZRedbird@reddit
What I wanna know is: where’s the caveman?
The_Junton@reddit
Under there obviously
Hajydit@reddit
man door hand hook car door
shroomigator@reddit
Not Donald.
ReturnRadio@reddit
Everyone except Charlie
HippoIllustrious2389@reddit
The real Don Draper
calmdownmyguy@reddit
He had a stock pile of tendies and a piss bucket. He was good to go.
peepeeinmypajts@reddit
I was reading this and thinking 'damn is this the first serious three beggars comment' and then I was not disappointed
Haveorhavenot@reddit
As soon as I started into the last paragraph I expected mankind and the hell in a cell.
MildlySaltedTaterTot@reddit
I started scanning the usual spots for a give
Deathgripsugar@reddit
TomatoSpecialist6879@reddit
duratchok@reddit
big if real
Inconspicuous_Shart@reddit
I was fully prepared for the undertaker to throw mankind off hell in a cell.
SlenderSmurf@reddit
can't believe I was greentexted on a reddit
MisterBobAFeet@reddit
Real
DoesRedditUseURLs@reddit
Bruh
zzznimrodzzz@reddit
There’s a show in the uk called “Car S.O.S” which is literally this except the cars belong to people who are typically terminally ill or old or in some way unable to finish it, and their families have written in with the intention of the show surprising them with the finished car at the end.
I really like this show and what it does, but I can’t help but think that half the joy in owning a project car is the doing up of it and now that’s effectively been taken away from them
frizzledrizzle@reddit
So Pimp my Ride for British.
ElKaWeh@reddit
To me it sounds more like someone took my shitbox I didn’t bother to do anything on for 10 years, and took that to a mechanic.
ThatGuyFrom720@reddit
Shit if someone took my project car to a mechanic and paid for it I’d be ecstatic. Fuck that rickety piece of shit.
Hyperstar5@reddit
Anon isn't the asshole but should consider asking first
FalconRelevant@reddit
These "surprise" people are assholes I'd say.
Darkwrath93@reddit
I completely agree.
ZarathustraGlobulus@reddit
FalseDrive@reddit
I am autistic but can see how taking somebody’s item and having alterations done to it without asking would be considered a problem even by neurotypical people. She even acknowledged “it’s super rough looking, but he loves it.” I’m assuming he had the $ to fix it himself if he wanted to.
Vodka_Flask_Genie@reddit
Anon isn't an asshole for trying to help, however, they completely missed why it mattered for the husband to fix it himself. The repair process was part of the emotional, sentimental value. Even if the end result wasn't perfect, the point was that it was his work and effort put into it. That is rewarding in itself.
But the anon is an asshole for making this about themselves.
Danny-Fr@reddit
Jesus Fuck look up the definition of words before using them. This isn't narcissistic AT ALL.
Self pitying, if you want to bash on someone who's already feeling guilty and venting anonymously, but a narso would ABSOLUTELY blame the boyfriend with no subtlety, especially online.
Also for the sake of all the boiled, broiled, fried and sundried fucks if we could collectively drop the therapy speak and stop diagnosing shit in people based on few lines of text it would be a breath of fresh air.
Vodka_Flask_Genie@reddit
Tell us how you really feel
level_6_laser_lotus@reddit
If you are at the point of feeling like you "can't do anything right", you should stop doing stuff without making sure the results match your intentions. In this case: ask first.
PFGtv@reddit
Somebody should post this too r/aita, see how it goes .
Super-Robo@reddit
She erased the guitar's mana.
wraithnix@reddit
Yeah, don't fuck with a person's instrument, that's just rude.
RDUKE7777777@reddit
I think it’s a sweet idea and all the people being angry about not touching other people’s stuff are bitter and need to touch grass. She just had it repaired, it’s still the same guitar. Ops partner doesn’t appreciate it’s nice to have someone caring for you and your interests.
ReturnRadio@reddit
You've obviously never poured time and devotion into a project that meant something to you. If I had to guess you've never owned an instrument either because myself and anyone I've known treat their instruments like sacred relics
N1XT3RS@reddit
Eh, after the first few dings it just gets tossed in the back of the car hahaha, electric guitar is harder to break than most though, and its still my most valued possession, just doesn't get that value from a perfect body
roboderp16@reddit
"it looks super rough"
"Took it to a professional to fix it"
She thought it looked ugly and paid to get it resurfaced/painted. He probably liked the look it had. You don't mess with peoples shit because you don't like how it looks
NoCard1571@reddit
It really depends on what she meant by "take it to a pro to fix it". If it was just replacing some of the pots/fixing a sketchy jack on an electric, I doubt he would have reacted that way.
If it was a 'fix' to the finish of the guitar... I think most guitarists would be pretty pissed. That would basically completely destroy its character, so no it wouldn't really be the same guitar anymore.
Limp-Temperature1783@reddit
Yes and no. Yes for caring, no for touching someone's stuff without their permission and doing irreversible changes to it. I would be mad if someone fixed something I had loved as is.
DirrtyBeans@reddit
Soo yes they’re an asshole for caring but no because they touched their husband’s stuff without permission? Something is off here 🤔
Fluggerblah@reddit
They wouldnt necessarily be an asshole for touching it, but then they made physical modifications to the guitar. That crosses the line imo. What if he liked the tone it had and the mods changed how it resonates? What if he wanted to fix it himself? Hell, what if he wanted to do anything at all to it but now feels like he cant because he’s now obligated to keep it as is?
N1XT3RS@reddit
$200 is probably just a setup, so it wouldn't change any parts or the tone, unless you really liked the way a certain fret was rubbing or something haha, wanted a bend to choke out at the perfect spot. The obligation bit might be it, or yeah that he just wanted to do it himself
Limp-Temperature1783@reddit
You clearly hadn't lived with someone else close before. Touching each other's stuff is inevitable. Modifying it is another story, it should have been discussed. But I suppose she wanted to make a surprise.
airfryerfuntime@reddit
$200 will get you a setup, not much more. It's not like it would be completely restored at this price point, lol.
Limp-Temperature1783@reddit
It depends, no? Besides, the OP didn't even mention the country they were from. $200 in the US might not be a lot, in another country it might be more than enough. I use dollars as a currency bc nobody would get how much I'm paying if I use my native one.
Eledridan@reddit
Did she care if she didn’t understand?
Limp-Temperature1783@reddit
She did. Nobody goes out of their way to do something like this just on a whim. To be fair, she probably thought what would make her happy so she did the same to her partner, but he had different ideas about this. He handled it pretty well, some might have lashed out and it could easily turn into an argument. She also noticed that he was sad, which means she does care.
Relax_Im_Hilarious@reddit
Not as much as she should have. She should have asked more questions instead of rushing to be useful.
Flashlight_Inspector@reddit
Them specifying how much it costs as a subconscious justification for why the BF should be thankful and them ending it with a pity party for themself after fucking up their husband's guitar both say more about anon than every direct sentence combined did.
Kazizel@reddit
Imagine doing you makeup and he says: looks shit better go to a professional.
Champomi@reddit
I think it's more about having your personal project done without your consent by a stranger than about if it looks good or not. Key words: "but it loves it". Every imperfection is a memory, now the guitar looks like any regular guitar
N1XT3RS@reddit
For $200 you're probably just getting a setup and some oil or whatever, no new parts, definitely no body work filling in dings or whatever. Just intonation, new strings, action, truss rod, wiring, and fretwork if necessary. Maybe he was looking forward to resoldering the input or something?
Alokir@reddit
Imagine releasing the fish someone just caught because you can buy bigger ones in the supermarket.
thr33beggars@reddit
Imagine dragons
Nalgazo@reddit
Imagine dragon deez nuts on your face.
Scottish_Whiskey@reddit
ImportantResponse0@reddit
Evil superman inhaling kryptonite to end Himself
Big__If_True@reddit
But if you close your eyes
CadmarL@reddit
You can imagine dragon deez nuts across yo face
Palmajr@reddit
🗣️ I'm waking up to ash and sus, I wipe my ass and I slap my nuts!
wouter436@reddit
Common misconception but the lyrics are actually: "I'm waking up to ash and dust, I miss her ass and I slap my nuts!"
thehornedone@reddit
Reminds me of a similar story years ago where a girlfriend traded in her BF’s Xbox 360 for an XBone, thinking he’d appreciate the upgrade. He lost all his thousands of hours of local saves in the process.
heresjolly@reddit
Least human on 4chan, holy shit
FollowingSuitable941@reddit
You erased his hard work. He loved the guitar because he rescued and rebuilt it himself
TearOpenTheVault@reddit
This is on par with buying a man a new wallet. It looks kinda shit for a reason.
II_3phemeral_II@reddit
If he could afford to do it himself it’s pretty obvious he liked it the way it was
ConnorOfAstora@reddit
Judging by saying she knew he repaired it himself I feel like she should've gleaned that it was special because he repaired it himself. Unless she only thought of this after the fact she should've had an inkling.
Thing is a lot of guys (people in general do this but guys especially) don't explicitly state things like this because it sounds corny and we like to be nonchalant.
The thought is nice but not everyone wants that, I don't even play an instrument and can tell that what she did was the same as giving her husband's save file to someone so they could beat a boss for him.
bisky12@reddit
everyone in these comments is way overreacting. sad, but unfortunate circumstance.
PomegranateHot9916@reddit
yes. YTA.
yes you are trying to be nice. but you didn't take the other persons feelings into consideration.
this seems more like you did what YOU wanted and not what HE wanted.
you wanted the guitar fixed because YOU thought it looked rough.
what did he think of it?
you fixed his guitar but you broke something else.
Sweaty-Towel8423@reddit
It wasn’t about perfection. He had fixed it and it meant something to him. Now a stranger, “the repair guy”, had taken that away.
Artystrong1@reddit
Stop feeling fucking sorry for your self. You lost me at I guess I can’t do anything right. Next time don’t assume
Ycr1998@reddit
Anon took husband's r/gambiarra and turned into just another guitar 😢
Kallonistic@reddit
Nah he should be happy he has a girl to do nice stuff for him
Vo112d@reddit
why are you assuming anon is a woman, most likely anon is a twink who has very gay sex
HomemQueijo@reddit
Fake: anon had 200$ to spend
Gay: anon is married to a man
Pure_Cartoonist9898@reddit
"You worked hard on that painting sweetie so I took it to an artist to finish it for you"
Pick_lebear@reddit
It’s like trying to windows-ify your Linux config
cortez_brosefski@reddit
There are many guitars that are famous for being kind of fucked up, like Willie Nelson's Trigger. It adds to the character, the story, and the sound. Getting it "professionally fixed" can ruin all of that
abdallha-smith@reddit
mariojw@reddit
You removed all his cum stains. Those were legacy faps that will never be recovered.
notShek@reddit
4chan tier humor on a 4chan reddit, idk why this got downvoted
maracujas_amarelos@reddit
Do you ever go to sleep at night and not ask yourself: "why did I turn out like this?"
roughback@reddit
Yet another reason every white woman needs a sassy black girlfriend. She would have told her "Girl leave that man's stuff alone."
Bandestar_@reddit
this was written using greasy fingers by a man who has never touched a guitar in his life
jj4379@reddit
As someone with a jazz degree majoring in guitar, my fingers have been plenty greasy over the twenty years of playing. What's that got to do with anything?
Okaoka_12@reddit (OP)
I wouldn't say it like that, she has her heart in the right place but failed to consider that her boyfriend wouldn't like it because of the sentimental value of the guitar
Fauked@reddit
don't fuck with peoples personal belongings that are important to them without asking. obviously.