My mum's the same. She doesn't even have Facebook.

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fantasy-lover1776@reddit

Why were you downvoted for this?? I am also sorry for the person you replied to, having a transphobic family member is terrible, even if you yourself aren't trans (general 'you')

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jomabu23@reddit

I don't remember my parents being adamant, or wrong, about much, if anything, but then I was a fairly well-behaved kid and they were pretty open-minded.

On the dishwasher question, however: I've lived in at least two places that came with dishwashers, and in each case the machine could not be relied upon to get the dishes thoroughly clean. I always did a better job by hand. And yes, a new dishwasher might provide a better experience, but I can't see paying for a machine to do something I can do perfectly well on my own (and have never found onerous).

Joshawott27@reddit

Some years ago, I got desperate and tried mailing a copy of my CV to a recruitment agent. I got a very sarcastic reply back.

Mid 90s my dad drove me down to the job centre and made me apply for a job he'd seen in the window. My mate was round my house at the time, have you got a job? No. Get in the car your coming as well.

We both got jobs at burger king

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funnystuff79@reddit

If only job centres offered jobs. Hasn't been that way in a long time.

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NeilDeWheel@reddit

My BIL made his 16 year old son go round the shops with his CV. He got a job stacking shelves in Wicks. So it does work.

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Random_Nobody1991@reddit

My mum made me go to the nearest city at the time and after one trip it became clear that it was a waste of time and money and I could do it online. One of the few interviews I managed to get was courtesy of an application made online.

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ASpookyBitch@reddit

35, my adult made me ring people through the yellow pages… it was humiliating and beyond stupid because how would I have even got to those jobs

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Inevitable-Level-687@reddit

I am so fucking lucky I grew up with a contractor as a Dad, who was job hunting about once a year for most of my life. I got a lot of "just buy where you can afford! Back in MY day we commuted a whole hour to work!" before my parents saw the light but I NEVER got the shitty job hunting advice. Quite the contrary, every single bit of job hunting advice my dad gave me has been extremely useful and has never steered me wrong. He taught me how to get around AI filters YEARS before people knew AI was a thing.

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gameofgroans_@reddit

Thinking about Christmas cooled me down for about 20 seconds there, so thank you hahah

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APiousCultist@reddit

the monkeys claw tightens imperceptively

Mariah Carey draws closer

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Different-Use-5185@reddit

He's making a list He's checking it twice He's gonna find out who's naughty or nice Santa Claus is in contravention of article 4 of the General Data Protection Regulation (EU) 2016/679

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SneezlesForNeezles@reddit

Oh this is going to all my clinical research colleagues...!

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Scared_Comparison_22@reddit

Ok in their defense I'm mid 20s and this has worked for me 3 times 😅 I literally moved town walked around around asking for jobs and had one the same day. The other 2 times were different places but same idea

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wearecake@reddit

Yessss. I’m 20, about to graduate. Been hearing this since I was 14. Nothing. Chronically unemployed so far. Now trying nepotism out 😭

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I worked in retail in the UK in the late 2000s and we would often get people coming in asking to leave their CV. We would take them but then were told to put them in the bin.

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Historical_Bench1749@reddit

I’d add to that, about being loyal to your employer and they’ll look after you

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JohnCasey3306@reddit

I (44) have only ever gotten jobs by "asking around"

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TheEnglishNorwegian@reddit

To be fairy parents said this to, and for myself and all of my siblings it was generally worked.

Hell, I even have my current job from just asking if they fancied a hand, and it turned into a full time job. Same goes for my first ever job when I was in school.

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Clothes_Chair_Ghost@reddit

When I was unemployed 4 years ago my job seekers agent told me to do that. I told him no one accepts them and I get told to apply online, which I had already done so.

During a thunderstorm, my MIL will switch off all lights & unplug all appliances (apart from fridge and freezer), and I believe she covers mirrors as well. She will then sit bolt upright in a dining room chair, in the dark, until it passes.

This is a woman who does nothing except watch telly all day so it shows how dedicated she is to her ‘lighting will destroy all’ belief. She’s so superstitious about it that she refuses to say the words ‘lightning’, ‘thunder’, or ‘storm’ out loud, and instead just says “them noises”.

Whenever we question or tease her about it she will launch into her well-rehearsed story about someone (maybe her own mum?) who narrowly escaped being shocked when lightning struck the house and killed the telly.

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Draigdwi@reddit

My house in Latvia is nothing special, just one in a row of similar. Yet it is the one that gets struck by the lightening regularly. Thanks to modern protection it doesn’t burn down but everything that’s plugged in needs replacing. Smaller appliances are thrown off their place. Dad is on lightning watch duty. Lightning struck a huge tree opposite the street and we had a ton of wood in the yard falling from the sky. Sat tv was destroyed the whole system, water pump, fridge, wifi, computer, printer. Even with insurance it’s a pain in the neck to have it all replaced or repaired.

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baciahai@reddit

This

Unplugging electrical devices during a thunderstorm is a good idea (although I must admit, I rarely do).

The Met Office recommend it.

If lightning strikes your house then there's a good chance it'll fry anything that's plugged in. If you're touching it at the time, then it could fry you too.

Think about it this way: lightning is enough electricity to spark a couple of miles from the sky to the ground. An electrical surge caused by a direct or nearby lightning strike can easily be enough to spark the distance between two pins in a plug (or electrical connectors in an appliance's circuit board) which are only a few centimetres apart. Electrical appliances don't like it when that happens.

So it is quite plausible that she did narrowly escape being electrocuted in a lightning strike. Covering up the mirrors is probably taking it a bit far, though.

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rocima@reddit

I went through 3 Linksys modems in the early 2000s over a 2 years period: they always died in a thunderstorm . Changed brand. Never happened again. (This is in Italy - the mains were a bit dodgy: my area of town at that time used to have a blackout once or twice a year)

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KingDaveRa@reddit

When I worked at the computer shop many years ago, the day after a storm was always quite profitable as we'd always have a lot of modems to replace.

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No-Lifeguard-1832@reddit

In fairness to your MIL a lightening strike is bloody terrifying, and our house wasn't hit directly. It hit the incoming (copper) phone line, the phone sockets exploded across the room, the one behind the fridge knocked it so hard the magnets flew off the door. It also arced over the house, killed the satellite dish and everything connected to the tv and there was such a strong smell of smoke and sulphur that we spent 15 min running around the house looking for the fire we were sure must have started.

Lt_Muffintoes@reddit

There is still a power switch on every psu I've seen

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papayacreamsicle@reddit

My parents believe that leaving the outlet turned on with nothing plugged in will “leak” electricity like a dripping tap.

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tricks_23@reddit

I left my 3d printer running for a 9hr print and my dad went in to my house to drop something off while I was in work. He called me immediately saying I shouldn't do that as it's a fire risk.

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CriticismTop@reddit

To be fair that is the case with a stock Anet printer.

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Flat_Professional_55@reddit

I turn off some things because I checked the cost of leaving them idle.

moosebeast@reddit

My parents generation are funny about 'newer' electrical appliances. Like my mum is fine with leaving a turkey roasting in the oven and going out for a long walk. But leave a computer on when you go out? What if it catches fire! Because, you know, all those times you're using your computer and it just spontaneously combust...

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m1_ab@reddit

Mine used to unplug both the wifi and the tv overnight for no apparent reason. Have convinced them to stop doing it with the wifi, tv is still a work in progress

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glytxh@reddit

I don’t turn off all wall plugs, but I do turn off most of them when not in use.

I can’t even count how many things I have plugged in or how many batteries are in my home. It gives me a low level of anxiety when I think about it sometimes.

My parents were the kind to say darkies are great and every white man should own at least 2 kinda parents.

Kinda sad when I look back however when I see old TVs shows from the same era it's understandable as all the words used were pretty much the words they used when I was a child.

Not sure what year my parents were born as I haven't spoke to them since I was 13 however I was born in 76 so my parents were likely slightly earlier than yours

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cybertonto72@reddit

I was born in 72, and my mum was born in 55. So you never can tell.

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RandolfSchneider@reddit

Gay racist parents are the worst.

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cold_tap_hot_brew@reddit

Your comment made me think of this.

SelectTrash@reddit

My nan is so inclusive loves the drag queens, gays and all races, but hates the two p”ffs next door

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ThatFilthyMonkey@reddit

Mine too, and the old ‘they’re such and such but actually lovely people’, I didn’t assume they’re weren’t mother…

My mum generally does use offensive terms but I have repeatedly had to tell her not to point out gay couples or transgender people, like their some kind of spectacle.

Alternatively for both, they could be bisexual

Tell me OP, do you have any opinions about the colours blue/purple/pink, do you cuff your jeans, do you like lemon cake?

!these are all bi community in jokes btw!<

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fantasy-lover1776@reddit

LEMON CAKE MENTION 🔥 🔥 🔥

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jamesbeil@reddit

...I like lemon cake.

Have I secretly been bisexual all this time?!

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ReallySmallFeet@reddit

...ok, I also like lemon cake and I'm openly bisexuality but didn't know lemon cake was a thing lol

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PomegranateEither768@reddit

Same, but happy to hear it ngl. Bloody love lemon cake

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CalicoDesertOasis@reddit

I'm a lifelong bisexual woman who has recently been questioning if I'm actually a lesbian or going through a phase...

Imperial_Squid@reddit

My hot take from being in the community for a decade is that there's functionally no difference between bi/pan/whatever other terms, and trying to be like "well bi means you do care about their junk, but pan means you don't care" usually just causes division more than anything else, what you call yourself is mostly an aesthetic choice at that point 🤷

I call myself bi because I like the flag colours and the term is well known. If you prefer pan over bi, more power to you friend 😊

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fairysdad@reddit

My dad used to be homophobic and changed his views as he thought i was gay but wouldn't come out as he was homophobic.

8 have a DB pension, but I've also had a S&S ISA since Sept 2003 with the aim of it being a 'leave it until I retire' investment. I only put £50 a month in initially, and have never got round to putting it up, which I do regret. Even so, it's now worth over 2.5 times what I've paid into it. Definitely worth it!

I started it because of my dad. He bought me a book called 'A Girl's Best Friend is Her Money' for Christmas, which at first glance did not please me and led me to ask him if he was saying I was crap with money. He said that on the contrary I was great with money, so he wanted to help me do even better. Anyway, the book was fascinating, I even read the bits which at that time absolutely didn't apply to me, and started my ISA as a result. Thanks, dad, because that's a good chunk of money I wouldn't have otherwise!

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To be fair a lot of younger people take that to the other extreme where the older gens were on the opposite end of the scale.

Hmmm. I was always tought enjoy the ones and things you have and never think about what may have been.

Dunno if it's worked for me so far but I certainly never sit and think how amazing someone else's life is because they own shit or make more than me.

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Britlantine@reddit

They need a Risk campaign book. I always used to do

that so I could replay my moments of glory over a glass of brandy in

the sleeping quarters. I ask you, what better way is there to spend a

Inevitable-Level-687@reddit

Is there a reason why you can't listen to your body, rest, *and* take medication? If I feel like shit it's a lot harder for me to sleep, personally. I can't sleep if I'm hot with a fever, for example.

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decidedlyindecisive@reddit

Oh fair enough. For me, I struggle a lot to listen to my body even when it's shouting at me. I also don't struggle to sleep when I have a fever.

I get migraines and have a cocktail of tablets for them. I'd be lying if I said I hadn't borrowed the odd antiemetic from my migraine box on ocassions to stop myself being sick.

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dendrocalamidicus@reddit

The prevalence of thinking that things like fevers and inflammation are universally bad is surprising to me. When you think about it for an entire minute surely it should occur that these responses have an evolutionary purpose and probably aren't actually bad? I guess people don't think for a minute about it.

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Inevitable-Level-687@reddit

I mean yeah, but we have modern medicine and hygiene now. What's the point of suffering through a minor illness when you can take some medicine to make it more bearable and it'll pass on its own anyway? Why be so Catholic about it?

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Inevitable-Level-687@reddit

It is, but we have medicine to deal with that, which we didn't have for hundreds of thousands of years of human evolution. A lot of the time there's not any need to shit your guts out or suffer a fever for no reason. If you're bad enough that you actually DO need to do these things, then you're also bad enough they can give you stronger medicine for it anyway.

Loan amount and interest rates.

“It was 15% in 1989, and we managed”

Mum's got an impressive few things going on atm:

If you shower more than once a week, you're wasting water and you're doing damage to your hair and body by scrubbing off the natural oils that protect you. If you have body odor, just use half a wet wipe (only half, because they're expensive too!) between showers.
Related to above: my sister's hair loss is because she showers daily. My sister is a transgender woman with higher testosterone, but nope, it's the showering.
Carbs are evil. Sugar is evil. Fruit is evil because it's sugary. Carrots are "the devil's vegetable" because they're sugary. If you eat a banana, you may as well be eating chocolate or ice cream.

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jamesbeil@reddit

You'd be surprised how many people I hear saying that last one. I teach the diabetes prevention programme in my area and the number of people who think the biggest problem in their diet is that they're eating too much fruit is wild.

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melikebiscuit@reddit

I used to work in general practice and some peoples ideas on diet are WILD! I once had a patient I was seeing for weight management tell me he didn't believe calories are real because he watched something on YouTube that said they are a conspiracy to sell diet products 🤣😭

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jamesbeil@reddit

Username checks out!

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melikebiscuit@reddit

Do as I say, not as I do, right? 😅

(Disclaimer; this is a joke. I enjoy biscuits as an occasional treat as part of a full and varied diet... ... ... 👀)

All these people going on fancy holidays are complete fools. What a waste of money. Some people just have no sense. Can you believe they spent all that just to go away for a few days, why can't they save it instead yadda yadda.

Unless it's the type of holidays they like of course - then it's a much-needed, mind-enriching relaxation experience!

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Accurate-Mousse-520@reddit

My old man believes the fish and chip place near him is shut after 6pm, I’ve told him a million times, I’ve shown him google. I’ve even called the place and asked them, he assumed it was me trying to trick him. He constantly thinks I’m full of shit and it’s hilarious.

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boroxine@reddit

Oh yeah my great uncle, for some reason, is absolutely adamant that all the shops in town are shut on Boxing Day. Like he makes a huge point any time around Christmas of saying how town was/is/will be silent on Boxing Day. If you try to argue he insists you're wrong. I just let him say it now!

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Aggravating_Sock4088@reddit

What possible motive could you have for tricking him about the chippy closing time?

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Accurate-Mousse-520@reddit

None, he’s the kind of guy who always has to be right. It doesn’t matter what I say, it’s because I say it he thinks it’s wrong.

donalmacc@reddit

You don’t want your chopping board to be hard wearing. You want it to be softer than your knife so that the board gets wrecked not the knife! Same idea as lime mortar vs cement for pointing bricks

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Amazing-Heron-105@reddit

I'm telling you from experience that the type of household to have a glass chopping board are not fussed with knives being sharp.

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Far_wide@reddit

That doing all of the washing up in one washing up bowl full of increasingly dirty water is a good idea.

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OohRahMaki@reddit

Dishwashers repeatedly batter your dishes with the same volume of water. It recycles this water to remove the bulk of grime/dirt/food and coat everything in detergent. This water is absolutely rank if you see it, I agree.

But then it has a rinse cycle, and it washes the grim water off of everything with fresh, detergent free water.

Washing up in a bowl isn't bad. But you still need a quick rinse in clean water after.

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NibblyPig@reddit

I mean, that's how washing things works...

I've never refilled my bathtub half way through and always come out clean

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Wiggles_21@reddit

But if you were covered in spag bol, and 6 other spag bol covered people had been in the same bath before you, you'd maybe not feel as clean

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nezzzzy@reddit

And your dishwasher magically makes that spag bol disappear without mixing it with the water in the machine?

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Morganx27@reddit

Yes

thepuzzlingcertainty@reddit

Exactly! She also tries to motivate me to get my hair cut later and later. The confidence from a £10 haircut is always worth it imo. It's like she hates anything that is actually good for your self-esteem lol.

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SpunkSacks@reddit

My mates mums is penny pinching to extremes way worse than that. But she’s got a horse.

I don’t know how much horses cost mind you. I guess they’re quite pricey to keep.

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Adventurous_Ad3451@reddit

I read that as ‘hearse’ and was wondering about mpg 😂

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gromitrules@reddit

Yup, can confirm. Sister-in-law has horses, brother-in-law maintains they may as well just burn money. Horses are expensive to buy, eats a fuck-ton of food, shits an even bigger fuck-ton of poo which needs paying for to be taken away (which gardeners then pay to receive) - and they injure themselves on unexpected blades of grass. Vets are, needless to say, also expensive.

They then decided to get a boat, because why have one expensive hobby when you can have two?

People who have more think they earned it themselves.

Look at the relevant study on Monopoly and the 5am rule. People think they've earned it all.

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Lt_Muffintoes@reddit

The work they did wasn't hard

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hyper-casual@reddit

My mum still parrots that she's overweight because she doesn't eat enough.

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TallmanMike@reddit

Not playing one-up but my partner and I just bought a house with a dishwasher; first time in her life as well. She's 37!

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man_onion_@reddit

There was a spider in my room trapped behind my curtains and I made a comment saying it must have come in through the open window. My mum immediately shut this down and said it must have come from out of the bath because how would a spider get in through an upstairs window?

OK so it's more logical that it crawled through the pipes, came out of the plughole, got itself out of the bath (like they famously struggle to do), walked out of the bathroom, squeezed through a gap in the closed bedroom door, crossed the bedroom and tucked itself in behind the curtains. That makes more sense than it coming through the open window and getting stuck behind the closed curtains until I opened them.

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Educational-Angle717@reddit

Not necessarily wrong but my Dad still insists on paying for most bills by cheque. His logic is that this way means the money doesn't come out of the account for several days but for me that doesn't make sense as you don't know where you are.

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r_keel_esq@reddit

How the hell does he even have a chequebook in this day and age? I thought banks collectived agreed to can them 20 years ago.

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MonkeysMonolith@reddit

I guess technically he accuses slightly more interest on his balance by deferring the payment.

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OohRahMaki@reddit

Most current accounts don't earn interest though do they?

Breakfast, Lunch and Dinner.

Apart from the occasional roast dinner we eat as a Sunday lunch, or Christmas Dinner which we usually eat at 1...

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Organic_Recipe_9459@reddit

Every school in the UK would still call them ‘dinner’ ladies though.

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VolcanicBear@reddit

Luncheon humans

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KEW95@reddit

As opposed to the mysterious luncheon meat? 🤔😂

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Bossman_Mike@reddit

This is true. We had "school dinners" served by "dinnerladies" even though dinner was never the afternoon meal in our local vocabulary.

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Its Sunday, there'll be nothing open!

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Salty-Jellyfish4327@reddit

Believing theres such thing as a stable job, and thinking it will set you up for life

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Buddy-Matt@reddit

There is such a thing.

However I'd say they're the exception rather than the rule

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off_of_is_incorrect@reddit

A job on the NHS is usually quite secure, you'd have to really fuck it up to get sacked there.

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Visible-Pomelo7748@reddit

Which unfortunately means there are many completely incompetent people sitting in permanent jobs they shouldn't be doing, but not actively fucking up enough to actually get sacked.

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Few-Director-3357@reddit

Not these days, the amount of organisational change going on, you can't trust anymore that you'll have a job for life.

You are right though, you do have to fuck up pretty spectacularly to get sacked.

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Angelbee941@reddit

I got a job in local council a few years ago thinking it was probably the most stable I could get.. made redundant last month! Thankfully they have a reasonable redeployment system so I'm still in there (slotted into another department), but who knows with all the restructuring going on.

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pajamakitten@reddit

Depends if you are clinical or clerical. Clerical jobs are the ones going at my trust in a cost-cutting drive. Clinical jobs are safe but only for the moment.

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Few-Director-3357@reddit

Yeah, that's a very fair distinction. Clinical jobs have just dried up completely in a lot of areas though. So if you're hired, you're safe, but good luck going elsewhere or for new grads.

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Second_Guess_25@reddit

I wouldn't say this was wrong per se...it's just outdated information. Back in the day, there was such a thing as a stable job and it would commonly be a job for life.

Yep, I went self-employed 5 years ago, and I still hear, 'when are you gonna find an actual career?'

Meanwhile, my brother in his 'stable' IT career, has had two redundancies in that time.

CaveJohnson82@reddit

Same, but with pork. I never liked pork chops untill I started cooking them myself.

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Buddy-Matt@reddit

I enjoy a blue steak. (Side note, I never eat steak out, because it's so damned expensive, and never done the way I like). Lightly seasons with garlic salt and served with a side salad.

I grew up with parents whose only method of cooking steak was to make "Steak Diane". I'm quite sure what they served wasn't steak diane. The sauce was closed to onion gravy and the steak itself always had the appearance and texture of boot leather. But 1 inch thick. I've never liked well done steak, and this was over done.

Consequently I hated steak until I moved out.

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Amazing-Heron-105@reddit

and never done the way I like).

But they ask how you want it?

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PomegranateEither768@reddit

They do, but if you say blue most places assume you just mean rare. Like yeah, rare is good but no. I want you to wave it at the grill and slap it on a plate. I want it still moo-ing, like a good vet could reattach it to the cows backside.

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Buddy-Matt@reddit

Of course they ask, but it's still never like I would do it at home. And I like the way I do it at home.

So the way I see it, I can buy a decent cut for having at home, and it'll cost me a third - if not less - of the price. And at the restaurant have a meal that I wouldn't be able to make myself.

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I'm a butcher. I can bring home some incredible ribeyes and my Mrs will insist I coo hers until it's like the sole of my shoe.

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melikebiscuit@reddit

Same with steak!

But also scrambled eggs. My dad's eggs were always grey and rubbery 🤢

sullcrowe@reddit

I guess it was post-war habits of shit ovens, dodgy meat & taking all risk out of the equation, at the expense of taste & enjoyment!

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And most vegetables for me, no more sad, over boiled, nutrionless veg in my hiuse

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PiccoloAwkward465@reddit

My mother has since apologized for the pork chops she cooked in my youth.

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Bossman_Mike@reddit

We grew up on well done beef until my mother decided to break with tradition and cook it rare instead.

People also act like they are feeding an army. They overload their oven and so everything takes a lot longer to cook than it should.

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UglyFilthyDog@reddit

Sweet jesus, there us one circumstance where a joint of beef should be cooked that long. Making the best stew ever.

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antmakka@reddit

Sprouts for me. They were mush. Turns out they are delicious when they have some crunch to them and air fried with seasoning.

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E420CDI@reddit

Fried with a diced red onion and a a couple of roughly chopped rashers...delicious!

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Mediocre_Sprinkles@reddit

Every single meat product was burnt to a crisp and dry after growing up. Dad used to get gorgeous steaks and flatten them to a mm then cook well done.

My other half cooks meat gourmet, it's absolutely delicious, so I'm not letting him go.

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E420CDI@reddit

Walk in the kitchen to find it boiling in plain water then she served it up plain

"The queen of Cordon Bleugh"

^(- Geraldine Grainger on Mrs Cropley's "cooking", Vicar of Dibley)

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RevenueAffectionate9@reddit

one bout of food poisoning will knock that out if you, take it from me 🥲

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SelectTrash@reddit

Same with my parents. I say my mum cooking any kind of meat could be classed as a weapon

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Inevitable-Level-687@reddit

Opposite for me. Sort of. Same childhood, but I came out of it being grossed out by moist chicken. Yeah I feel like this is the chicken equivalent of liking well done steak but I don't like chicken unless it's dry. I spent a while cooking chicken properly and kept wondering why I didn't like it... went fuck it and started overcooking it and now I enjoy chicken again lmao.

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rapid-decay@reddit

I know a lot of people who prefer their chicken legendary.

Cooking is so vital to growth and it's often a big influence on a child. My dad was averse to a lot of veg for a while since my nan used to boil the absolute life out of them.

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My husband thought he hated roast chicken for the same reason and was transported when I cooked it.

My mum was really good at cooking chicken but turned all beef into shoe leather.

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v24t@reddit

Same in my house but with lamb. Sunday roast of grey shoe leather then endless sad dry flavour free leftovers

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stevedavies12@reddit

My mother had a similar attitudes toward washing machines and held that they never got the clothes clean. She held to this so firmly that she would still boil her laundry on the cooker until, well into her 70s, creeping arthritis and pressure from Social Services, meant that she finally gave in.

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catsaregreat78@reddit

My grandparents still had a twin tub when I was young. I loved the smell of the washing from that but really didn’t enjoy the look of the work it took. You don’t see big wooden tongs anymore!

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NurseAbbers@reddit

My grandparents (now both dearly departed) had a twin tub washing machine. They had laundry day every Tuesday and my Grandad would wheel the twin tub into the kitchen without fail every week. I loved the smell of the washing powder and the sound of the whirring of the spinner section. It was their weekly ritual until my Nan had a nasty fall and broke her clavicle in 2006. She couldn't manage moving the wet clothes from drum to drum any more, so they reluctantly had to get an automatic one. However, in the last 5 years of her life she did not shut up about how efficient her new roundy-roundy washing machine was.

I cannot for the life of me remember where the twin tub lived when not in use as they had a tiny sheltered house at this point. They had a similar transition to a front loader which fitted nicely in the kitchen!

That’s hardcore laundering! Did she have a washboard as well?!

My parents’ first house when they got married had an outdoor toilet but that was back in the early 70s. Fortunately by the time I arrived, they’d upgraded to indoor plumbing. I do remember the central heating and double glazing going in though!

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Appropriate-Bad-9379@reddit

Monkeys wee on milk bottles and cans of pop(!). I’m 68 and my late mother passed this gem along. Obviously to discourage me drinking directly from the bottle etc. Thing is, I never questioned it. Admittedly, I was young, but I lived in a big industrial city, where monkeys are rarely seen! Common sense isn’t one of my strong points. Thing is, I passed this “fact “ on to my daughter ( who still hasn’t forgiven me)…

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blackcurrantcat@reddit

Going to bed with wet hair will make you ill. HOW???

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jenifer6677@reddit

My mum said it will make your pillow mouldy and you’ll get respiratory issues… idk but I stopped doing it lol

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I did push the boat out and got the top-rated AEG one, 8kg load and 4kg dry. It works well and everything comes out bone dry. A complete wash/dry cycle is four hours though - which can be rough.

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melikebiscuit@reddit

This was the deal breaker for us; we do about 7 loads a week (family of 4, two adult gym users and two kids who do multiple sports each week). Yesterday, for example, I did 3 loads. We don't have a washing line so anything that's not delicate goes in the tumble dryer.

It comes with the sacrifice of not then having space for a dishwasher, but needs must. We're about to move house and for the first time in my life (aged 40) we will have space for both a dishwasher AND a tumble dryer!!! I am SO excited 🤣 (also has an outside washing line! Going to feel like a millionnaire).

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insanityarise@reddit

I have a washer/dryer and its.... fine.

Having a dedicated tumble dryer was loads better.

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RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

Yeah, I'm sure it's a lot better - a lot cheaper if it was heat pump as well. When space is a premium, I prefer having it combi than not at all - so needs must.

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Alarmed_Yard_5548@reddit

I’m not sure but I have a massive fear that I’ll end up like them and stubbornly stick to nonsense!

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One thing I’ll say about my auntie, she’s got some outdated beliefs but her music taste is unbelievable! She is 70, and for as long as I can remember when you got in her car she’d have Capital on as the radio station. She actually went to a Dua Lipa concert recently with her granddaughter, and her & I attended Ed Sheeran a while back. It’s great!

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Gwynnavere@reddit

They grew up in a time where they couldn't just research on the internet, so there was very little consequence for being wrong about something that was widely accepted. Most likely when they were growing up it was very rare for anyone to disprove a commonly-held misconception. Their brains haven't adapted to people having a way of disproving things readily available in their pocket.

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Dontbeajerkdude@reddit

Moreso they think everyone younger than them is dumber than they are, so we must be wrong about disproving things.

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Amazing-Heron-105@reddit

Their brains haven't adapted to people having a way of disproving things readily available in their pocket.

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melikebiscuit@reddit

One of the few things my dad said when we were looking at buying our first home was to 'stretch ourselves to the most we could afford'. I'm glad we didn't listen 🤣

It's meant we've been able to afford nice holidays and home improvements, and even though our lovely low fixed term is coming to an end next year and likely to increase a few hundred, we can still afford it and aren't at risk of losing our home.

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MrStilton@reddit

I don't think that's objectively bad advice though. Is it?

They're basically just advocating that you should have a high risk tolerance,

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Bossman_Mike@reddit

Whereas my dad was trying to lecture me about overpaying my mortgage. I stopped him immediately and asked him rhetorically if he thought I hadn't spent many hours talking to a mortgage adviser about this exact thing?

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Tallman_james420@reddit

The importance of maintaining family connections.

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Datanully@reddit

Absolutely this.

The extra irony being, the person saying this in my family cut off all of their own siblings in their early 20s. But that was "different", apparently. 🙄

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lavender_cookie_@reddit

But also not doing anything to actually make it authentic, it only exists when they want something and the rest of the time treat that other person like poop.

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Trick_Tea4615@reddit

Omg this...we had an uncle an auntie, (the auntie especially) who would cause murder in an empty building, absolutely foul woman, but we were forced to keep in contact with them, invite them to all our family events etc and never pull them up on their foul behviour. To be fair, after abour 30 years my mum finally realised and cut contact as much as she possibly can, but why she allowed such toxic people in our childhood and teenage years is beyond me.

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APC303@reddit

Similar to what someone else has already said... "All that running you do will wreck your knees" which was modified to include strength training as a harbinger of doom as I get older.

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WoodenFault7969@reddit

Not my parent but my wife’s

My mum told me I shouldn't go to the gym because she once knew a woman who went to the gym then "turned into a man" and abandoned her children. Which is weird because she doesn't believe in trans people.

RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

bloody hell that's lower than I thought

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Taear@reddit

It's very much "how many GenZ have rich parents"

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RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

my mum let me live for low contributions but that's only because she had no mortgage after my dad died - she could claim her pension early just at the right time otherwise we'd have been on the bones of our arse, things were tight before she was able to get her state pension

obviously my situation is increasingly rare based on the evidence you've put in front of me (and I won't shy away from that, I'm incredibly fortunate and my mum has been bloody amazing) but thought my experience was worth sharing at the very least

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Doccmonman@reddit

Just bought mine at 26 with my partner

Had a discussion with my parents a few years ago where they suggested they charge me very little rent on the condition that I saved what I’d otherwise be paying. That and a Lifetime ISA got me to my half of the deposit.

I honestly have no idea what anyone’s supposed to do if they’re already renting a place of their own though. It’s fucked.

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Bossman_Mike@reddit

I'm reminded of those interminable tabloid articles where someone says "I bought a house when I was 9 without the Bank of Mum and Dad".

You read the article, and in actual fact they lived at home rent free. Apparently it doesn't count as "Bank of Mum and Dad" so long as they don't actually gift you cash.

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Doccmonman@reddit

Yeah I’m very careful not to say I “did it myself” or anything along those lines, although it was still hard work

I suppose it’s easy to forget when it’s all “your” money

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FidgetyHog@reddit

Your parents must be proud of you! Heck, I'm proud of you and I've never met you. It's so easy to get lifestyle creep and fritter away your money, that must have been so satisfying to get the keys to your own place for the first time 🙂

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Wiggles_21@reddit

Me and my husband bought our first house last year, at age 26. We didn't have any help/live with parents or whatever, we rented a flat and we have two kids. We just saved like holy hell, used a 5% deposit scheme, and moved to Barnsley lol

Ooh or open concept shelving in a kitchen. Feels like a hostel.

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Taear@reddit

Do they? I don't feel like I've ever noticed this or followed any specific pattern when putting stuff in a new kitchen.

The house must be cleaned within an inch of it's structural integrity every weekend.

Also, for when I was living with my parents, if it took them 4 hours to clean a room and me only 1 hour to clean the room to the same standards, I still did it wrong, somehow.

Caller: "You can't grow concrete."

Presenter: "Yes you can!"

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saxbophone@reddit

My mum refuses to accept putting the pizza directly on the oven shelf even though the instructions say to do so. Last time I did it at her house she properly freaked out and urgently removed it!

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Netlifeathome@reddit

Homeopathy, my mum will tell anyone that will listen that homeopathy saved her friends life from cancer. She believes to this day that all the drugs and treatments the friend went through didn't work and that she would have died if she hadn't tried homeopathy as a last ditch attempt to live. No amount of fact, science or rational discussion will convince her otherwise.

My Dad turns his internet on his phone off when he leaves the house despite paying for a contract which includes a reasonable amount of internet for someone who never answers their damn phone anyway. Makes meeting up really fun.

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Yes!

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WeirdLight9452@reddit

lavenderroseorchid@reddit

My parents were wrong far more than they were right, and their lives reflect it. Angry, hateful people living small lives. Me? I did the opposite and I’m living it up

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sillwuka@reddit

Do the food shopping at a reasonable time as 'the shops always shut early on weekdays' despite most major supermarkets open until 10pm or even Midnight for as long as I can remember.

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Silhouette_Sneezes@reddit

My parents are so adamant about that dishwasher myth OP that both my brother and sister refuse to get one. My brother was given one when he moved and he THREW IT AWAY.

My husband and I disagree on most things. Politics is not one of them. I don't think I could be with someone who wasn't broadly similar in political thought.

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RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

everyone is stupid except me

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AirconGuyUK@reddit

There's no right or wrong in politics, just varied opinions of how to get from point A, to point B. I will die on this hill.

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berkleysquare@reddit

My parents laughed when I told them that I was going to be a successful stand up comedian......They're not laughing now!

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WanderWomble@reddit

That fans cost an absolute fortune to run. I had an attic room growing up which was boiling in the summer and freezing in winter. I wasn't allowed a fan because they were too expensive to run apparently.

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My Mum, a retired medical doctor, honestly still thinks spiders found in the bath or sink come up through the plug hole and should be washed back down 🤦‍♀️

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No-Tap3230@reddit

This was genuinely on Tomorrow's World in the 1980s. I have a very clear memory of the presenter and a fake bath with pipes showing a spider coming back through the overflow.

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West-Fortune-1373@reddit

How to bring up children happily. Don’t get me wrong I wasn’t abused, but my mum was mean, and my dad was unsupportive. I have no happy memories of my childhood with my parents, only adulthood. I made sure my child feels loved, and I tell them all the time how loved they are. Different generation, but generational trauma is real for me and I have worked hard to not carry that down to my kid. My mum is still convinced I was the problem and still laughs when telling story’s of me trying to run away to her friends…. Or worse… mine?!

They won’t put glasses in the dishwasher because, apparently, they’ll get broken. Even when I show them the pack of dishwasher tablets with a pristine glinting wine glass as the main picture. Even when they’ve stayed at my house and watched me unload clean, unbroken glasses from the machine. Even when they got a set of tumblers with “dishwasher safe” clearly written on the bottom. It’s still a risk not worth taking.

This threw me, I’m a couple of years younger than your mum and I have a one year old, yet here you are writing about your mum online!

Despite both of my 70-80yr old parents being post-graduate educated and highly intelligent people… they both are still convinced that autism can be caused by vaccination.

Traditional food is the healthiest. (They use vast amount of oil to fry) Both have health issues.

If you have your hair long it will 'eat' your calcium and minerals.

Changing jobs is a bad idea. Best thing to do is work for a company as long as possible.

If you keep your head down and work hard and never ask for more, you will receive what you deserve because people will treat you right and see who you are.

Going to the church and praying will help change your circumstances.

The priest is always right.

One must be buried otherwise it's a big sin.

There is hell and heaven and god will judge you for all your sins.

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noroomsintuscany@reddit

Enabling. I have a brother and sister that my 88 year old father still supports financially.

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byjimini@reddit

Heating goes on for 4 hours a day; 6 til 8am, 7 til 9pm. And lights only go on if it’s pitch black in the room.

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Emergency_Mistake_44@reddit

My dad refuses to believe you can fly anywhere for under £20 despite me showing him on numerous occasions the actual receipts showing you can. He thinks there's a catch or scam.

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spaceshipcommander@reddit

Pre washing pots before they go in the dishwasher. Why the fuck would I half wash them? The dishwasher just blasts the food off. I've never had a problem in 7 years and I've never rinsed a plate off.

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macros1980@reddit

Some people I know seem to take this idea to extremes, though. Putting plates in with half a fucking sandwich clinging to it. At least knock the big chunks of food into the bin first.

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spaceshipcommander@reddit

Why? That's the dishwasher's job.

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flyin_jimmy@reddit

I went to my mates house for a dinner party to celebrate their new extension and kitchen, really swanky and top range. After being done they started washing all the dishes, I wondered why they hadn't put them in the dishwasher..there reply was "we dont want to make it dirty" 😅.

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Bossman_Mike@reddit

Family friends of mine did up their new kitchen and spent serious money on it. They were splashing around in the sink.

I have my smart meter IHD in the kitchen, hence any appliance that's running I can instantly see the usage spikes and orange light.

Alert_Mine7067@reddit

We were the opposite with the dishwasher, ours was used frequently, the tumble dryer and immersion were demonised instead. I think a nuclear bomb going off nearby would have upset them less than the immersion being turned on for half an hour would have.

They believed that using a pay as you go electric/gas meter was cheaper than direct debit, easier to manage, but not cheaper.

My car was hit whilst parked, my dad was a retired police officer so I asked how I could find the person responsible. He went mad because I'd reported it to the police and my insurer, saying that my insurance would skyrocket and I wouldn't be able to afford to drive anymore, it went up by something like £90 at renewal. I noticed this attitude amongst that generation, pay for comprehensive insurance cover, but never ever dream of using it when you need it.

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RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

I forgot about the immersion! Yeah, my Dad put a box around the switch to stop us turning it on.

We were like moths to a flame because it had a nice red glow when the switch was on.

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Alert_Mine7067@reddit

The light was always fascinating. I remember at one point we had a knob operated timer switch, you turned it around to the length of time you wanted it on for (max 1hr) and it turned off after that, a bit like an analogue microwave dial. The unit must have burnt out and was then replaced with a classic on/off switch, after that was when the bollocking came for leaving it on.

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Compromisee@reddit

That if I pull a face and the wind changes it'll stick like that

DrillInstructorJan@reddit

My father has a PhD and was an electronics design engineer for decades.

He believes in dowsing and wearing a magnet on his wrist.

Justbarethougts@reddit

So sorry to be a pest but could you (or any1 in this section) recommend a reasonable-ish priced gaming PC setup (I’m aware they r all expensive)

My son is 16, autistic, no social life/friends. It’s really worrying me. Online friends are his saviour. He’s so sensible & aware of online safety as well that, that element cause me little concern. I just know this is the kind of thing that would completely change the quality of his life. However my knowledge on anything that isn’t an iPhone is non existent.

I’d love to surprise him, but I’ve tried looking everywhere online. It’s so confusing. I’ve read reviews, watched YouTube reviews etc and they all end up contradicting each other. It’s impossible. So any advice or a solid buy this x, y& z, etc would be MASSIVELY appreciated

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titrati0nstati0n@reddit

Hiya! Absolutely!

Bear in mind that currently, due to AI, some components are much more expensive than they were originally (and more than they should be).

If your son is autistic, he may enjoy some aspects of building the PC. If he enjoys playing with Lego Mechanix or whatever it‘s called, or even if he enjoys electronics, this could be a really fun path for him. I have mild autism and it is a whole load of fun for me, but I do have a penchant for PCs (I work in IT).
Some components can be quite delicate, though, so if you don’t trust that he can handle those safely then it may be worth building it yourself on his behalf.

Do you have a specific budget that you need to fit within? Any size constraints?

Feel free to DM me if you‘d prefer :)

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Justbarethougts@reddit

Sent you a DM 😃

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Bossman_Mike@reddit

The Xbox One and Series S/X just didn't have the same social element to them, because of course Microsoft decided not to bother bundling the cheapest of headsets with a flagship system.

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bitterlemon80@reddit

My father in law still insists that going out with wet hair will give me a cold, even when it's boiling outside!

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That Fox News is worth watching lmao

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Particular_Order9186@reddit

cooking garlic and then adding the onion

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surreyade@reddit

My Dad refuses to use the aircon on all of his cars that have it fitted (1996 onwards!) as it ‘costs a bomb’.

He is now considering an EV - so maybe things will change.

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lost_send_berries@reddit

My parents got a new used car and I knew their old AC didn't work. I explained the Auto setting on the AC and how it maintains the temperature and you won't need to adjust it. And how if the AC is left off for too long the rubber seals will degrade and the refrigerant gas will leak meaning the AC won't work in the summer.

That their generation worked really hard and that's why they got amazing pensions, cheap housing, solid jobs etc. It was luck, guys. You can't walk out of high school and straight into the civil service for 40 years anymore. We're not all just lounging around doing the bare minimum while you all worked your arses off. You were lucky, end of.

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Bossman_Mike@reddit

My grandfather cleared the mortgage on their family home in 7 years. Granted, it was a low-mid CoL area and he was quite well paid for the era.

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BigSkyFace@reddit

My Dad's not with us any more but he used to hold onto a view that 'cash means something to somebody'. Obviously some people do still prefer paying with or receiving cash, but he couldn't fathom that a lot of people have moved on and would rather do a debit card or contactless payment instead.

Me and brother reminisce sometimes about him trying to haggle at a market stall by specifying he'd pay cash. The stall owner laughed at him as he repeated the full price back to him.

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reo_reborn@reddit

1: racism But if we're talking about normal things 2: my mum is still convinced if I take my dog for a walk, across a public field that has cattle/sheep in it they (farmers) will INSTANTLY shoot my dog even though he's on a lead.

She acts shocked we've survived when I said we went for a walk across the fields. I even told the farmer who owns the field about it a few years ago and he laughed and said "If it was a wild dog attacking I may do shoot it but I. 40years of farming I've never done that." He then said "Most ppl think that because it was in emerdale farm once (a UK soap)"

She's still adamant that it's a law and happens every day.

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doorstopnoodles@reddit

Your mum isn’t wrong that it’s perfectly legal for a farmer to shoot a dog which is chasing livestock. But most won’t because they don’t walk around armed at all times and it’s only allowed if there is no other reasonable action they could take to stop the dog. Not to mention that farmer generally don’t want to kill dogs. It does happen from time to time though.

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reo_reborn@reddit

...mum is that you? Lol

No, I am aware of that, as I said the farmer said "If there was a wild dog attacking my sheep I woukd". I mean simply BEING In the field (which has a right of way) will get us both shot 'legally'.

Like they have armed snipers watching for anybody stepping foot in the field with a dog will get snipped lol. Maybe I didn't gett hat across enough.

For e.g this is a typical conversation (Capitals mean in a panic tone and half shouting)

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Beach_Perv@reddit

My mum is convinced that the red Henry vacuum cleaner can be used to stuck up water. Apparently avoiding to Ma,the early Henrys were designed to be a wet vacuum cleaner. I have tried to convince her that this is not the case. I've shown her chatgpt days regarding Henry vacuum but no ever hear when her extension floods she's out there sucking up the flood water, and to be fair it still works after all these years

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minkyroo@reddit

My dad would lose his shit if I swore down the landline when talking to friends as he said the operator could inform the police and have you arrested. He might just not of wanted me to swear, maybe.

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AfterSomewhere@reddit

Everything does not have to be cleaned perfectly.

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cherryxgrenade@reddit

That I do things deliberately to piss her off - like forget to do housework.

I have ADHD. I was late diagnosed. I have not tried medication yet as I'm on the waiting list.

And I'm trying, so damn hard.

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_Cridders_@reddit

How to cook basically anything.

ellemeno_@reddit

That drinking whilst eating confuses your stomach.

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DEADB33F@reddit

Next time you give your kitchen a revamp, get two dishwashers. That way you barely need any other cupboard space at all.

...As you dirty your dishes & cutlery put them in the left dishwasher. When full, set it going. Then take things out of the left dishwasher as you need them and put them straight in the right dishwasher when dirty. When left is empty and right is full set the right one going then reverse the process. etc, etc.

This has a few advantages...

Now there's never any arguments over whose turn it is to load or unload the dishwasher.
You might need just one more cupboard for pans and rarely used dishes, but everything else always lives in one of the two dishwashers, which saves space if you only have a small kitchen.
You have a backup dishwasher should one ever break down.
If you have a ton of people over you have two dishwashers! ...so can wash all the stuff from a dinner for like 20 people all in one go.

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Hot_Holiday_45@reddit

How long to boil vegetables.

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yrro@reddit

"It's called weather"

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Jolly_Comparison@reddit

You must wait three hours after ingesting food before you go for a swim. No matter whether it's a three course meal or an apple.
God forbid you leave the house without wearing 10 layers of clothes or with wet hair: you'll catch, respectively, a cold or "la cervicale" (some sort of neck pain). Source: grew up in Italy in the 80s

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Sensitive-Question42@reddit

My mother is under the impression that dishwashers leak and shouldn’t be used. We lived in a house for 5 years and we weren’t allowed to use the dishwasher because, apparently, they leak.

I am now a proud dishwasher owner and I use it all the time with no problems.

My mother moved into a new place at the beginning of this year and it has a dishwasher. She seems terrified of it and will only use it when I am there to supervise it!

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itsheadfelloff@reddit

Most things TBF, anything you hear or read about is wrong; anything they see online or their friends tell them is the gospel truth.

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Lanesra8989@reddit

Don’t drink fresh orange after your cereal , they will curdle and you’ll get stomach cramps

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Otherwise_Craft9003@reddit

Black people and inability for motorcycle riding and that male gay people are all peadophiles.

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Melendine@reddit

My dad still believes almost every gay man is non-monogamous.

Lol, conversely we just bought a dishwasher specifically to save water. After a frightening water bill, I did some sums and measured our water usage and concluded a dishwasher would save us about £10 a month Vs manually washing up.

So far (after 2 months) that calculation's more or less holding true. Sure, there's electricity, dishwasher tablets etc to account for, but by my calculations it'll have paid for itself in about three years, all while saving me the chore of washing dishes.

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Appropriate-Low-9582@reddit

Thinking you can get a nice new ish low mileage car for under 3k.

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Sirlacker@reddit

What's even better than one dishwasher, is two, and just enough pots to fill them.

LegoPandora@reddit

Ha same with the dishwasher! When my parents eventually had their kitchen redone, they had a dishwasher installed. It’s rarely ever used - costs too much to run and uses too much water. There is no convincing them otherwise. I don’t actually know why they got one. Actually I do, stepfather wanted one and mother won’t let him use it for the previous mentioned reason. He can’t be seen to go against her law.

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RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

"As I was carrying dirty plates and cutlery to the sink I tripped and they all fell into the dishwasher which subsequently turned on and started cycle"

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My mum has certain opinions on my job (secondary teacher) and in particular about how she would be better at certain matters of classroom discipline because she would “set her expectations”.

She also, almost completely contradictory, thinks certain school rules are too strict (like… expecting students to have their books in lessons.)

She thinks she was a great mother and so did I until I finally came to terms with the fact she wasn't in my 40s after therapy.

I'm NC now.

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Odd-Currency5195@reddit

Parenting generally....

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Gluzruooplaxcamphian@reddit

Love.

Money.

Risk taking.

My own ability to assess myself and my potential.

Creativity and ideas

Health.

Social life.

Hobbies.

Sexuality.

Gender.

Emotions.

I could go on, they just love being wrong and insist on their wrongness to my detriment and abuse.

Even when I succeed and prove them wrong they can't admit it or accept it. So they are no longer part of my life. At least as much as I can manage to keep them out.

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calmeilles@reddit

This Be The Verse

By Philip Larkin

They fuck you up, your mum and dad.

They may not mean to, but they do.

They fill you with the faults they had

And add some extra, just for you.

But they were fucked up in their turn

By fools in old-style hats and coats,

Who half the time were soppy-stern

And half at one another’s throats.

Man hands on misery to man.

It deepens like a coastal shelf.

Get out as early as you can,

And don’t have any kids yourself.

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Gluzruooplaxcamphian@reddit

It's a beautiful poem, even if tragic, but actually misses the mark of my specific circumstances in some areas.

My parents are not transferring generational trauma, at least not in the usual sense, my dad in particular was raised by two of the kindest, supportive, hardworking and lovely people, who he has nothing bad to say about, nor do I or anyone else.

They were more like parents to me than my own and now they're gone. My dad basically has been enabled to act however he wants and do what he wants and shirk parental responsibilities and he's still not happy or satisfied with anything in his life.

My mum is a victim of his abuse but also a perpetrator and enabler.

As for me. I will do my best to break this particular cycle, with effort and therapy. I can't have kids due to the physical abuse and medication for my health issues.

To be fair, dishwashers were originally very heavy on electricity and water use. My father was exactly the same.
It took me until I had 4 children to get a dishwasher and I wish I'd done it sooner!

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RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

I hadn’t considered this, maybe I’m too harsh on my old man…in other news, I have some clean plates to attend to! Isn’t technology amazing?

"It's nothing to worry a doctor about, stop making such a fuss"

Died of a retroperitoneal liposarcoma. Eventually.

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Evie_Astrid@reddit

Just my mum, and a lot of things; although she is living with (I believe) untreated mental health issues and alcoholism, but is in denial, so perhaps those in themselves are the biggest two!?! 😅

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trippykitsy@reddit

I will be honest, yes, the dishwasher probably uses a lot more water than an efficient wash would. However people tend not to be efficient with water at all.

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RiceeeChrispies@reddit (OP)

I've just checked my recent cycle, 9.5L used. I wouldn't be able to do as good as a job with less than that with the amount of washing up I had to do. Then you have to run it for a little bit whilst it warms up from the combi...

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BlackFlagMatt@reddit

All but stating that I wouldn't be capable of doing anything for myself.

PerditaNicolette76@reddit

Mother was adamant that radiators were to expensive to run back in the day when you put 50p in the meter. She had the four of us when we moved into the council house that was one of the first built in our town in the 1930's. We moved in 1988 and there was no main modernisation apart from putting an inside toilet on the end of to kitchen downstairs. So if we needed the loo we had to go through the living room then the kitchen to the toilet. Upstairs had a small room with a bath and sink. Id say 6ft by 5ft room. Single glazed windows. Coals fire in the front room, gas fire in the lounge. It had radiators put in but in the 3 years I lived there she never used them once. I was the eldest at 12 at the time of moving in, then a 6 year old brother, 5 year old sister and our 8 month old brother. Even with a baby she only regrudingly put the gas fire on for a few hours in the evening. We just layered up. She wouldn't even entertain duvets we had the old fashioned sheets followed by the course itchy type blankets then a thick heavy bedspread.

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notanadultyadult@reddit

We never had a dishwasher as a kid. When I bought my first house, there was space for one but the previous owners took it with them maybe? Or perhaps didn’t have one. Can’t remember. Well, I found a slimline one on Facebook market place for £50. Some old dear was bought it by her daughter but she struggled to use it because bending was difficult so it was practically brand new. Did me about 6 years before it gave up; which was about 2 weeks before we moved to our new build with a brand new dishwasher lol.

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Carduelis-1@reddit

Buying lottery tickets 🎫

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