Daughter's weird faux nostalgia of the 90's/early 2000's
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My daughter has this weird faux nostalgia for the 90's/early 2000's even though she was born at the very tail end of the 00's. She watches those YouTube videos like "Last day of school, 1996" and "Smokin' Grooves - 2000 - No Cellphones!" and then she lets out these deep emotional sighs like she is reliving her youth. She tells me all the time how she wishes she had grown up during that time. I find it kind of funny because I remember some 70's fashion making a comeback when I was in high school (mid 90's) but I don't remember anyone actually expressing a desire to have lived during the 70's.
firehawk2324@reddit
The 60s made a huge comeback in my state in the 90s. We were all wearing bell bottoms and tie-dyes, listening to Janis Joplin. There's a reason Woodstock '99 happened. We all pined for something we weren't alive for.
JasJoeGo@reddit
Every decade loves what was 30 years earlier. The 80s loved the 50s. The 90s loved the 60s. The 00s loved the 70s…
Scary-Ad9646@reddit
That explains Uptown Girl
Lost_Operation_369@reddit
wdym?
Scary-Ad9646@reddit
It sounds like a 50s doowop song like Frankie Valli.
JasJoeGo@reddit
And the Stray Cats, Duckie in Pretty in Pink, Back to the Future...
Tiny_Goats@reddit
The B-52's!
Scary-Ad9646@reddit
I honestly hadn't thought about that stuff until now. that's wild.
feverdog257@reddit
Isn't this loosely the premise of the movie Midnight in Paris too?
JasJoeGo@reddit
Yes!
Bucolic_Hand@reddit
To be fair to OP’s daughter, I too looked back at a time before me (the 60s) with a misplaced sense of nostalgia when I was younger. I imagined the generation before me had a sense of political purpose that my own was too cynical to curate. I “pined” for protests and counterculture. It would appear I got my monkey paw version of that wish fulfilled lol. Older people aren’t the only ones plagued by rose colored glasses.
firehawk2324@reddit
Yeah, nobody is saying that
Bucolic_Hand@reddit
Oh I wasn’t trying to imply you were saying anything contrary. My bad. Poor execution of a “yes, and” on my part there lol.
firehawk2324@reddit
No worries
maker-acct@reddit
We had Woodstock ‘94… which was much better than ‘99.
Tankipani88@reddit
I was only 5 at the time, but my mom brought me to '94. Some of my earliest memories...
wooq@reddit
Woodstock 94 had better hats
forever_erratic@reddit
Not unless you're solidly gen x
imogen1983@reddit
I’m far from being a solid Gen X and I watched every set of Woodstock ‘94 that was being shown. I had zero interest in anything at Woodstock ‘99.
sisterpearl@reddit
Yeah, I am solidly Xennial, and also did Woodstock ‘94.
ifallallthetime@reddit
I was one of these kids
OnlySezBeautiful@reddit
D-Lite
Fraggle_Rockers@reddit
One of my original tapes my dad gave me at some point! Groove is in the 💜💙❤️!!
frougle_mcdugal@reddit
swisszimgirl79@reddit
Great now that song is going to be stuck in my head for the next century
KeyEcho5594@reddit
It ever left your head? !
Fraggle_Rockers@reddit
Awesome 😎
norsish@reddit
Groove is in the Heart
GarciaWolf@reddit
Your name just makes me wanna say Dance your cares away!
Fraggle_Rockers@reddit
Worries for another day!
seahorse_party@reddit
Worries for another day-ay-ay!
Bart_1980@reddit
Thanks, now that’s stuck in my head 😉
Fraggle_Rockers@reddit
You’re welcome. It’s been in mine all day haha 😂
AnneKakes@reddit
Smile On is still one of my faves.
CBDeee-Lite@reddit
I’ve been summoned ?!?
MajorMiners469@reddit
Aww man. Now it's in my head.
WanderingStorm17@reddit
I'm sure you meant the groove is in the heart.
MajorMiners469@reddit
Oh god. And a pun to boot. Lol.
ObiWan-Shinoobi@reddit
We sure captured that feeling of Woodstock again didn’t we?
1920MCMLibrarian@reddit
Absolutely, I was a britpopper and basically lived in brown bell bottom corduroys my entire junior year
phoenixliv@reddit
OMG you just reminded me of my olive green corduroys I was absolutely in love with them!
rangeo@reddit
Barefoot bands on area rugs
buschkraft@reddit
Checkout Steven Wilson playing barefoot on a beautiful rug even last week.
dorky2@reddit
I was obsessed with the Beatles in the 90s.
firehawk2324@reddit
One of my favorite memories it's of sitting in art class, listening to AM radio (usually The Beatles) and just being creative.
Fappy_as_a_Clam@reddit
Speaking of...
I watched the first Austin Powers last weekend, for the first time in probably 20 years.
Holy shit. What a great movie. I got legit belly laughs out of it.
If you haven't watched in recently, watch it.
Coruscafire9@reddit
I just rewatched the first movie a few months ago and I was impressed by how well it held up. Austin is a consent king!
Electronic-Ride-564@reddit
I haven't seen the whole movie since the 90s, but recently caught the clip of where Austin catches up on the past 30 years with the CD, the pump shoe, etc and even though it's jokes and gags, the scene is actually quite emotive. Maybe it was the Bacharach.
Fappy_as_a_Clam@reddit
I fucking lost it when he was doing the Macarena.
Somehow I never noticed that Frau Farbissina got into it in the background
Jcolebrand@reddit
The movies are even better if you've seen a LOT of 60s British TV shows, or even earlier, because a lot of the imagery is ripped from older stuff. It's truly amazing how deep the pulls are and yet super authentic to the genre.
DewSchnozzle@reddit
My stepsister followed The Grateful Dead around the U.S. in the 90s making hot dogs, bracelets, getting gas vouchers from police, all of that hippy stuff from the 60s and 70s
norsish@reddit
Dork ;) Have you seen almost famous?
firehawk2324@reddit
I was a teen in the 90s and I wanted so badly to do this.
Xx_SwordWords_xX@reddit
We even went back to the forties at one point, with swing and Hollywood movies that were obsessed with that gangster era.
staceychev@reddit
You're so money, baby, and you don't even know it
firehawk2324@reddit
This is true, but I don't think it had as much of an impact as the '60s phase did.
iekika@reddit
We called them flares. I hated when my mom called them bellbottoms 🤭
RogerClyneIsAGod2@reddit
The 50s made a comeback in the 70s & early 80s with Grease & Happy Days.
bansheeonthemoor42@reddit
I was born in 85 and I remember having socks hops in school and lots of birthday parties and retro diners.
firehawk2324@reddit
I briefly remember that, but I was just a kid in the 80s, so I was all about neon colors.
chamrockblarneystone@reddit
There’s a great line in a bad early 90’s movie called “Flashback” where some old hippie said “The 90’s are going to make the 60’s look like the 50’s.”
Not exactly. We did attempt to take all the drugs though.
Bkjolly@reddit
I came here to say this.
garden__gate@reddit
I was like OP’s kid, wishing I was a teenager then! It looked so cool.
Man_Bear_Beaver@reddit
Yeap exact same here in my part of Canada, it’s the only time my parents never throwing anything out paid off…
MoulanRougeFae@reddit
I also think part of this is what's currently going on in the world. It's an absolute mess and Gen Z along with Alphas are going to be adults in a very different society than we did. There's no simplicity or innocence for them at all. Our teen and early adult mistakes didn't come with nearly as bad consequences as theirs does.
wooltab@reddit
Yeah. I think that this is less about the 90s/00s in the sense of looking back as everyone always has, and more about the really unique change our societies have gone through since then.
Things always change, but it feels almost like a different world, looking back to the time before the internet took over.
Late_Kaleidoscope714@reddit
I dug late 60s early 70s in mid 90s. I wore my Grandpa’s suede fringe jacket, old band Beatles, Stones, whatever fit t-shirts. Early 2000s I loved old Sears, Montgomery Ward dress shirts and pearl snap western shirts
Brilliant-Bus-3862@reddit
And the circle of life goes on. In the 90’s I was obsessed with the 60’s. This isn’t weird at all.
ZooZoo233@reddit
I was a teen in the late 90's/ early 2000's an i can confirm that it was the absolute best time to be young!
karenobus@reddit
Instead of calling it weird and fake, take it as an opportunity to talk and connect with her. If she's interested in that era, I'm sure you have plenty of stories.
quintusfive@reddit
Seriously. Why call it “faux”? It’s nostalgia based on imagery/sounds packaged in optimistic YouTube videos. Pretty natural to long for such unknowable times and places.
EdwardianAdventure@reddit
Thank you for saying this. Everyone else is rushing here to post how they too experience a "nostalgia for something they never experienced" (which i swear has a word in Welsh; I'll look it up after I post).. but nobody else picking up on the derisive mockery and gatekeeping. OP, read the many, many comments about how this is very real, very authentic and even.. painfully emotional experience of an absence for a time you imagine to be better than yours ..(Spoiler: >!yes, it was!<) ... and please use this as an opportunity to connect and understand your child instead of eyerolling at her. Instead of coming to reddit to complain, how about you get some Jiffy Pop going, and pop in She's All That for her?
AZPines@reddit
I mean… there is an entire show about the 1970’s made in the 90’s…
emscape@reddit
The 90's were the last time anyone felt hope for the future
remoteworker9@reddit
No different than my 80s self loving the 60s and my 2001-born son loving rhe 80s.
Few-Helicopter-3413@reddit
Oh I absolutely wished I’d lived in the 70s when I was a teen. I used to tell my parents how lucky they were to hear such amazing music brand new and go to the movies and watch the best movies ever made, and they were like, meh, I guess. I also regularly tell my kids how amazing the 90s were lol, so maybe I’m just overly nostalgic too.
kinetic_cheese@reddit
Haha I was the same way with my parents. They were in their early 20s during Woodstock and I remember as a teenager saying to them "you could have been at Woodstock!!!" They were like, yeah, ok 😆.
bunchofclowns@reddit
My Mom lived in San Francisco in the late 60s and had no idea there was a movement going on. Then both my parents lived half a block from the sunset strip in LA in the late 70s and also no idea about what was happening there.
PersianCatLover419@reddit
My silent generation parents were in Philadelphia in the 1960s my dad remembers the riots in Philadelphia and how there was lots of destruction.
Another silent generation friend was in Detroit during the riots there and said it was so bad he left to go teach in Vietnam.
Satellight_of_Love@reddit
Wait I LIVE in Philadelphia. No one told me it was it’s destroyed.
eyesRus@reddit
Same. My parents graduated high school in 1967. My god! How perfect!
Dorothyismyneighbor@reddit
That's the year your mom could have her own bank account without a man to sponsor it!
eyesRus@reddit
And she did!
ErnieBochII@reddit
Aside from that pesky draft to fight in an illegitimate war
eyesRus@reddit
True. My parents attended college right after high school, which allowed for deferment.
guyako@reddit
Absolutely. And sometimes I wished I could go back even further so I could go to Woodstock!
Now that I’m 43, Woodstock sounds like a miserable time.
cranberries87@reddit
I always wonder about this Woodstock business. People make it sound like it was absolutely dreamy, but I can’t wrap my head around it. It was raining, no showers, no hotels, a lot of people hitchhiked to get there, or their cars broke down and they left them and walked or caught a ride. I just can’t imagine the logistics and how any of that was fun.
achtungbitte@reddit
drugs. a lot of drugs.
jesssongbird@reddit
The suffering is weirdly part of it. I have some amazing music festival memories that happened in the heat and mud.
Kidkrid@reddit
Turns out a bunch of stoned folk find enjoyment in anything if the vibe is right.
Biggseb@reddit
Meh, it’s partly that and partly looking at that event from the rear view mirror (so to speak). We tend to retain more vivid memories of the positive parts of experiences, while minimizing just how crummy the negative parts of that experience were (as long as the overall experience was a net positive).
FinallyKat@reddit
My mother and her friend did go. She said they go stuck in hours of traffic and her friend finally got out and walked the rest of the way there while my mother noped out.
I used to be amazed that she came so close to being a part of music history but turned back. She was Never sorry she had, as the horrible conditions would have been Way too much for her.
She was part of more important bits of history, so she made certain to emphasize activism and Civil Rights over the pop culture that was lived
sassooal@reddit
My mom was 16 and working at one of those resorts nearby, like the one in Dirty Dancing.
Someone said they should go to the concert after work and a bunch of them piled into a car. My Mom wasn't wearing any shoes and they didn't stay very long.
imogen1983@reddit
At 42, I couldn’t manage to go to an event like that. I go to festivals and will stand in the pit for hours, but I stay in a hotel. If there was a nice hotel walking distance from Woodstock, I’d be there!
I went to a lot of shows and festivals in my late teens and early 20s that would make me miserable now, but I had a blast at the time.
murph0969@reddit
My dad went to Woodstock.
twineandtwig@reddit
Haha! Right? I used to say the same thing to my parents when I was a kid. But they were a bit too young (13 and 16 at the time).
My dad saw the movie in NYC when it first came out, on his way to Europe with his friend and friend’s dad. They wished they could’ve gone, but the closest was watching it on the big screen.
MegaRadCoolDad@reddit
Mine said, "what's Woodstock?"
Inc-Roid@reddit
Snoopy's bird friend
Chibichanusa@reddit
"What's Snoopy?" (their reply, probably)
joshhupp@reddit
So did you go to Woodstock 99 then?
SheBrokeHerCoccyx@reddit
Relevant song
norsish@reddit
I think I just fell in love with you. It won't last.
pienofilling@reddit
I just commented that on a different part of this post!
jesssongbird@reddit
My parents were extremely off put by the period during the late 90’s when I listened to nothing but Fleetwood Mac for several weeks. And I was shook to my core a couple years back when I saw a 22 year old dressed like an extra in a spice girls video. I literally went home. I suddenly felt too old to be out that late. This is cyclical. It’s how you find out you’re old now.
AquariusRising1983@reddit
Yeah, same! I told my Dad (born in 1948) that I wished I'd been born when he was because he did all the shit. Backpacked Europe in his 20s, went to protests and festivals and all the shit I thought was so cool when I was a kid/teen in the 90s. I wished I were alive in the 60s and 70s so hard. Used to wish we lived in more interesting political times, so I could go to protests and shit... Now I just shake my head and think, be careful what you wish for.
questions6486@reddit
It definitely helps to have deeply conservative and antisocial parents. My dad's experience of the 60s and 70s was... not the same as your parents, haha.
jonyoungmusic@reddit
I was thinking the same thing my dad was born in 1949 and grew up in a slum in jersey city and fought in Vietnam lol.
questions6486@reddit
My dad didn't even have that. If he'd experienced war or something, I could at least be a little more sympathetic.
He was raised by hateful shut-ins and grew up to be a hateful shut-in. That's it.
jonyoungmusic@reddit
Thankfully my parents broke the cycle for the most part. My dad's dad was a drunk & abusive and my mom's dad was pretty much the same. Also her mom commmited suicide when she was a teenager. Although my parents divorced and had their share of issues, they were nowhere near as bad as their parents. I think I was spanked like twice my whole life lol.
SplakyD@reddit
Same. I definitely romanticized my Boomer parents' era and also pined for the consequence free debauchery of the 70's.
Sad_Egg_5176@reddit
It was thanks to Dazed and Confused, and later, That 70s Show for me. And maybe the Interstate 76 game too
Few-Helicopter-3413@reddit
It was Almost Famous for me. I AM A GOLDEN GOD!
bluev0lta@reddit
Same. The 70s were popular again in the mid-late 90s. I’m sure my parents were amused (they both seemed to have a good time in the 70s though, so maybe they understood).
TiberiusBronte@reddit
Yeah I was pretty obsessed. Honestly I still am, I watch old TV and movies from that era more than the 90s
sweetbeard@reddit
It makes sense to have been nostalgic all this time since everything has gotten steadily worse since we were born
Jdojcmm@reddit
Same here! My dad just turned 70 and was at the next to last Lynyrd Skynyrd before the plane crash.
He started taking me to shows when I was 15/16. ZZ Top, Jimmy Page and Robert Plant of Led Zep, Skynyrd a few times too.
Being the same age in the 70s would've been awesome. Could've seen so many great bands that ceased to be by the time I was born.
Meggos1022@reddit
Yep, used to say I was born in the wrong era. My fixation was the 60s/70s. Wrote my research paper on Kent State massacre and did a biography paper on Jim Morrison. My HS boyfriend credits me with his Led Zeppelin knowledge. My comfort movie was Tommy.
flowbkwrds@reddit
I was a 70s obsessed teen too! My parents would tell me all about growing up in the 70s, the music and fashion. They had vinyls of all the good classic rock and a 1968 GTO. My dad would recommend some crazy old movies like Clockwork Orange and we would discuss the meaning. I really wanted some super bell jeans but those never really made a comeback. It's been fun reliving my high school fashion with 90s & 00s resurgence. I guess we'd have to recommend watching the Matrix and catch an Acid Bath concert now.
EggandSpoon42@reddit
Me too. I think it was a way to feel closer to my parents.
My 10yo is going through the same hard nostalgia as Op's kid. I personally love it. The last few days she's been facetiming w her "beauty friend" to do make up together and they've been asking me tips. I feel so valued right now, haha.
questions6486@reddit
And here I am telling the teens I work with "the 90s had problems too. It wasn't that great, calm down" lol.
blue_suavitel@reddit
Same
kheret@reddit
In high school I had my uncle’s record player, bell bottom jeans, a lava lamp, beaded curtain on my door, and so forth. Even now a lot of my favorite music comes from the 70s/early 80s. Who knows. But it was definitely a thing for some of us.
Pristine_Bobcat4148@reddit
Do you remember how in the 90s some of our peers decided they were "hippies"? Same thing.
ifallallthetime@reddit
Damn Smokin Grooves was such a good tour
AverageHeathen@reddit
I was obsessed with Dazed and Confused. I was born in 1981.
LibraryofConfusions@reddit
Every generation goes through this. When I was a kid it was the 60s and 70s with Hippie aesthetic galore.
Then the 80s came back yuge. Just like our nostalgia 90s and early 2000s media now. I was so sure I should have been born in the 60s so I could have enjoyed the 70s and 80s properly.
70s because pre AIDS and LGBTQIA boom. 80s because of pure nostalgia and aesthetic. I was born in the 80s so I remember a bit of it and it feels cozy because of that.
Even if things were absolutely destroyed as we know it thanks to good ol racist Ronnie.
Nostalgia is one hell of a drug. And the previous gens nostalgia rubs off on their kids.
yayforvalorie@reddit
I think this is fairly common.
Everlow_@reddit
Funniest thing is that kids these days only would have to not use their phone as much as they do and be more present when doing something else if they want to live youth like it's the 90's. It won't be exactly the same, but just by cutting their screen time they'll have a good first grasp of what it was like
gobnyd@reddit
You should call her a poser
jenkinsleroi@reddit
She might be right, and history matters. The late 90s will be seen as the peak of american power and culture, if not already.
The early 2000s had 9/11, but social media wasn't a thing, and phones with cameras and videos didn't exist. Social pressures were different.
30secstosnap@reddit
The teens and preteens my kids hang with are the same. Some for the 80s, a lot for the 90s and 00s
DDChristi@reddit
My niece says the same thing all the time. I tell her to let me rip off her eyebrows and give her a real pair of low rise jeans then ask if she feels the same way. Those jeans where the zipper was ~2 inches and your ass was in the verge of hanging out even when standing much less sitting through classes all day.
Kade7596@reddit
I can actually think of basically no drama in the 90s other than Bill Clinton **clutches pearls** and I can definitely understand anyone, whether they experienced it or not, wanting that vibe back
Lucky_Louch@reddit
The difference is the massive shift in technology and always online that came after the 90's. Kids born into being terminally online long for a life without it. Having grown up without it and with it I totally get it and long for those days too. Besides the fashion things really weren't THAT different from the 70's to 90's but you can't say the same from the 90's to now.
kcknuckles@reddit
One key difference: I think kids today objectively have it worse than we did, and might genuinely see the appeal of the era because it's documented much more clearly and is more accessible than the 70s were for us.
Jakobmoscow@reddit
I am lıke thıs wıth the 80's and I was born ın 1991. I totally get the appeal of the era rıght before u were born
effugium1@reddit
I felt that way about the 40s and 50s in the 80s. The cars, the films, the shows on Nick at Nite, discovering random old relics at my grandma’s house.
RhubarbGoldberg@reddit
I agree, and then in middle school, in the 90s, I wished I'd been around for the hippie era.
I do think some nostalgia for a romanticized version of "before" is typical and most generations can relate.
But I also think being a kid anytime post 2008-ish has to be way less fun and way more suffocating than anything we experienced, so I can't blame them for wishing they had our level of freedom.
effugium1@reddit
Yeah, in the 90s I was so into the Doors and Zeppelin and Hendrix and whatnot. I still have and wear a Doors shirt I bought in 1993 when I was 16.
alwaysgreenbanana@reddit
Everyone was taking swing dance lessons and listening to Zoot Suit Riot.
sumthin_creative@reddit
TikTok videos are a huge influence on kids these days and there is a ton of 90s nostalgia BS because of those videos, and because of our generation hanging onto the past. This subreddit is a perfect example.
AquariusRising1983@reddit
I was a kid/teen in the 90s and longed to live in the 60s or 70s. I was obsessed with the music, the hippie scene, the clothes, the political protests, all of it. Everything just seemed so cool. I told my parents all the time I wish I'd been born when they were. They still think it's crazy cause I know more about pop culture at that time then they do, and they lived it.
The ironic thing is now I think the 90s were actually a pretty cool time to come of age. The 90s were a badass tie and there was plenty going on in my teens and early 20s that made me feel alive and all the things I yearned for and felt "nostalgic" that I hadn't experienced from the decades before I was born.
The thing that kills me the most is I remember wishing we lived in more interesting times, that there would be protests and causes I could get wrapped up in and feel what it was like to really be part of something. I wanted to go to protests and feel passionate and make a difference... well... Be careful what you fucking wish for, amirite?
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catherinecornelius@reddit
Cousin Itt was always getting laid. Legend
PersianCatLover419@reddit
Ahh yeah!
Mayor0fSimpleton@reddit
Show her the good parts of the 90s. And I don’t mean whitewash, I mean show her an actually good movie from the 90s. People who grew up in the streaming era have had a significantly choked off media landscape because they only know what was streaming, I.e. what was acquirable for cheap enough. YouTube’s algorithm is famously pidgeon-holing, and streaming services don’t sort based on quality, so they see 10 terrible movies with Do The Right Thing shuffled into the middle and can’t tell the difference between that and the rest of the bargain bin slop that makes up streaming content. Only in the last few years did they discover Seinfeld, because it wasn’t streaming anywhere for a long time. They like Heathers but have never heard of My So Called Life. Music isn’t such a travesty, but 20 year olds think it goes Louis Armstrong>Elvis>Beatles>Nirvana>Arctic Monkeys>SZA, all right on each other’s heels. (I work at a college, so I’m looking at a bunch of people all of a certain age, year over year for a decade.)
Regarding fashion throwbacks in the actual 90s (for white kids anyway): corduroy, peasant dresses, bell bottom and wide legged pants, punk, Lilith (genre), the whole swing revival thing, birkenstocks, overalls…
Nightstone42@reddit
because 90s highschool had a completly diffrent culture then modern highschool both had their pros and cons
Seanwins@reddit
My daughter is 13 and she's obsessed with the 90s. Her clothes, her music - all 90s. I was in HS in the 90s so its fun to bond over and show her little things she didn't know about.
foozebox@reddit
Maybe the 80’s will be….radical?
iridescentrae@reddit
lol that’s normal
Beginning_Vehicle_16@reddit
I was in highschool in the 90’s and bell bottoms, platforms, and hippie stuff was pretty popular during that time.
Professor_Anxiety@reddit
My friend and I were talking the other day about how we had that same faux nostalgia for the late 60s. "It must have been so cool to be able to protest the Vietnam War and for women's rights and for civil rights." And now we're like, this fucking sucks and probably the 60s did, too.
The only thing I think you need to worry about is her one day deciding to major in history (like we did), because its not a useful major haha
assimilated_Picard@reddit
The late 90's was peak humanity. I think the younger kids yearn for the relative innocence of that time period. (Pre social media, virtually no school shootings, terrorism, media bubbles, reasonable COL, politics still relatively functional, the list goes on ....)
Technology has increased but QOL has been reduced in allot of ways.
not-hardly@reddit
We have an eight year old who scoffs at the audacity of the people who remade magic school bus, that she learned about last week. . .
FormNo2644@reddit
She probably just wishes she had lived in a simpler time because everything is fucked currently. Lol. I always felt like I was born in the wrong decade and would have enjoyed the 70's back in 1997 when I was in high school. Also, they have been raised watching shows about nostalgia their whole lives so it makes sense.
critic2029@reddit
The irony is a lot the millennial fashions they’re brining back is the 70’s stuff retro we wore in the late 90’s and 00’s. Only difference is we consciously knew it was retro. We didn’t hade allusions we’d discovered anything.
Significant_Dog412@reddit
In Britain, we had the whole Cool Britannia thing. It felt like an attempt to recapture the spirit of the Swingin' 60s and optimism and then push this image of us to the wider world.
Britpop took a lot of influence on the bands of the 60s, with Oasis especially idolising the Beatles and openly trying to be their modern day successors.
Football (soccer) was also looking back to the 60s with new hope for the national team and Euro 96 marking 30 years since our one World Cup win. Three Lions has become the definitive English football song.
There was also new/renewed excitement in UK film starting with Trainspotting and Four Weddings And A Funeral being bit breakout hits.
Cool Britannia lost its cool when Tony Blair tapped into it for his landslide win. And with Blair's subsequent record, the phrase is now a bit of a poisoned chalice.
The 70s nostalgia that seemed to be fashionable in the US never really caught on for us. Our 70s have a strong image of being the bad old days.
stopatthecatch@reddit
That was my fav Ben & Jerry’s flavor.
Significant_Dog412@reddit
Not a flavour I remember, which is a shame because it looks like one I'd love.
More-read-than-eddit@reddit
Dazed and Confused was probably more alluring to a lot of teens than Kids, in the United States
PvtHudson093@reddit
America had D&C to depict the 70's. If you want to see a depiction of the UK in the 70's go watch Life on Mars.
More-read-than-eddit@reddit
I dunno, Andrew Garfield’s life looked pretty good in the first red riding film, do I really need more?!?
Cool_Dark_Place@reddit
I think Radiohead made a nod to this with their "Electionering" track off of OK Computer.
Threetimes3@reddit
My teen listens to CDs and carries a digital camera around with her instead of a cellphone.
WeeDramm@reddit
There was still so much more hope
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JeanEtrineaux@reddit
I wish it was the 60’s, I wish we could be happy. I wish, I wish, I wish that something would happen.
pienofilling@reddit
Some things don't change!
Quimbymouse@reddit
There was a huge 60's/70's "nostalgia" movement in the east coast of Canada in the 90s. I know because I was part of it.
It's harmless. Every generation does it. That's why shows like 'Happy Days' and movies like 'Grease' were big hits in the 70s with teens and young adults.
flipfloppery@reddit
Our kids wish they'd gone to raves in the 90s, so we took them (our adult kids, poor 14 isn't old enough yet) to a rave run and Djd by the original 90s lot.
We had a wild time and they got to experience what a 90s rave was like.
username__0000@reddit
I 100% wanted to live in the 70s in the 90s.
But then I watched dazed and confused and I was like “actually it’s not that different from now” lol
geekdadchris@reddit
See, I do remember a lot of 70’s influence when I was in high school in the mid 90’s. A lot of my friends had Doors and Zeppelin posters in their rooms, I remember sundresses as a top got really popular with the girls in my school, and That 70’s Show came out in the late 90’s when it was cool to like stuff from that period.
ShitJustGotRealAgain@reddit
I've never been nostalgic to the 70s. I like some of the fashion and wore my mom's my 70s jacket. And I wore the shit out of that platform shoes. But that's it. I thought that the 70s were drab to live in.
I'm from Germany so in the 70s and 80s there was always UdSSR and the cold war looming. We had a homegrown terror group that were mostly young people.. My parents always told stories that they had to close the windows when they talked about them in order not be accused being and sympathizer.
Vehicles were a moped and a bike at best for teens. You can still get your driver's license at 18 so no cars and even if you were 18 and managed to get a driver's license, cars were expensive in relation to household income. So you'd be lucky to even have one at home and that doesn't even guarantee that you can drive it if you wanted to.
School was much more rigid in that it was harder to aquire higher education and a university degree. Education was related to household income and household education itself. So if your father was working at that steel plant you had a more than 90% chance that you end up there too. So you basically left school at 14 or 15 and started vocational training. If you dreamt of going to university and study something that you were good at in school, dream on. You can earn money. There's a high chance your family can't afford to send you to university.
But maybe that's just my parents perspective and my parents were both of working class families.
Women's rights were in its infancy and don't even get me started on that during that time.
PersianCatLover419@reddit
I had a Northern German friend from close to Denmark, he was originally from Hamburg originally but moved much further north. He was gay and married a woman as he was expected to and said in the 1960s and 1970s and 1980s in West Germany there was a lot of conformity, no sexual freedom, everyone who was bisexual or gay was deeply closeted, and thought things were way too open sexually then in most large cities in the USA and Canada.
ShitJustGotRealAgain@reddit
There was sexual freedom in counter culture in the late 60s and the 70s. But it was fringe, artsy, hippie, student types. That wasn't the lived experience of mainstream culture.
Iamthegreenheather@reddit
I always wished I could have lived in the 60s until I got older and learned how things were back then.
ChristelynneMatrix@reddit
You're missing your opportunity to save a line charge on your cell phone bill. Tell her she can live like the 90s. 🤣
mtbguy1981@reddit
I don't have kids but this is common with every generation. The amount of people in the '90s who swore they should have been born in the sixties and seventies was through the roof.
Barnitch@reddit
My 13 year old daughter thinks the 80’s look cool, and they were! When we’re cooking and cleaning, my husband and I often put YouTube on the tv. We’ll play a random video and just see what else pops on. The music videos were all so creative and interesting. Everything from Phil Collins to Lionel Richie to The Cars to Tom Petty. It was such a different and optimistic time.
msnowxs@reddit
I think it's because I didn't like the 70's aesthetic, but I definitely wished I'd been able to experience Woodstock instead. Nothing about the 70's called to me, EXCEPT for wishing I could live out Milla Jovovich's character in Dazed and Confused. ✌️
vidvicious@reddit
I was born in the 80s and had the same feeling about the 50s.
but_does_she_reddit@reddit
I was at a parent/school meeting last night and all the parents were discussing how this is “a thing”. God I feel old!
SnoozuRN@reddit
I would rather be raising kids in the 90s!
bansheeonthemoor42@reddit
Its just part of being a wistful teenager. I remember wearing bellbottoms and tie dye and watching Almost Famous wishing I could have been the awesome Penny Lane in the 70s.
I say embrace it and you can totally bond over showing her your youth. Show her shows like Daria or Buffy the Vampire Slayer. She will love those. I ended up being obsessed with fashion and history and ended up becoming a costume designer.
Important_silence@reddit
My 14 year old daughter prefers print books to ebooks, writing notes on paper vs electronically, and insists on paying cash for what she buys as she hates credit/debit cards. If I didn’t give birth to her, I would swear she’s a time traveler!
datbackup@reddit
This daughter of yours is my kind of zoomer, fearless and inventive
Important_silence@reddit
She even likes 90s/00s vehicles! None of the newer ones impress her.
Fappy_as_a_Clam@reddit
Those vehicles were cooler, that's why.
And I'm not saying that as nostalgia, even in the 90s and 00s I knew we were in a golden age of cars.
Similar to how I'm sure dudes in the 60s and early 70s knew they were.
Important_silence@reddit
I’m already prepared for it to take some time for her to find the car she wants. I see a lot of pre-purchase inspections in our future!
Fappy_as_a_Clam@reddit
We'll be prepared, the ones I'm sure she loves are fetching a pretty penny now.
I wish I would have kept my Honda Prelude and 240sx!
Important_silence@reddit
I had a Toyota Celica, was considering a Prelude, both were excellent options.
I’ve been browsing vehicles on carfromjapan.com made prior to 2000.
https://carfromjapan.com/?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=10672248880&gclid=CjwKCAjwpOfHBhAxEiwAm1SwEh3Efiv-GOOUAKLnx7NL6XcnezJ1P4y_-qyVG8bOK6Mk4MjWvRX3EBoCg7wQAvD_BwE
So many neat models I’ve never heard of!
ShitJustGotRealAgain@reddit
So we're getting hipsters for the 90s?
metallady84@reddit
I could parrot this with my 16 year old exactly. She dresses like I did, listens to the same music, always says she should've been a 90s teenager - and I very much wished I was born in the 70s when we were her age!
Rat_terrorist@reddit
When I was in high school in the 90s, we loved all things 1970s- music, muscle cars, clothing to a degree, but we were still mostly GAP kids and grunge-wear in South Texas. It’s basically the 30 year gap. In the 80s they mythologized the 50s. In the 90s it was the 60s and 70s. We’ve just lived long enough to see those things come back around in out kids. I think it’s funny.
MetaPhalanges@reddit
< I don't remember anyone actually expressing a desire to have lived during the 70's.
Maybe it wasn't common, but there certainly felt like there was a sentiment for simpler days when there wasn't AIDS. We wanted to fuck and fucking was made fucking scary. The music and the clothes seemed pretty rad at the time, too.
EmmalouEsq@reddit
Remember our 70s kick in the 90s? This is the same thing. She probably wonders how life was back when things were more simple just like we did thinking back to the 70s.
Tell her stories. Let her read about us reminiscing about the best time to ever be a teenager. Play her the music of our people and share the memories the music brings.
Knathra@reddit
Anoemia - nostalgia for a time or place one has never known
literanch@reddit
Gen A, and especially Gen Z, know that they missed out on something. They can’t quite put their finger on it but they know the past was much better and they long for a time they never knew.
MiloTheMagnificent@reddit
Thats because the nostalgia in the 90s was for the 60s.
Colonial13@reddit (OP)
That must’ve skipped my neck of the woods. I remember bell bottom jeans for girls making a comeback for awhile, and I had some friends that were real heavy into punk and they started dressing to match photos from mid/late 70’s London punk scene. I don’t recall anyone being nostalgic for the 60’s.
General-Reserve9349@reddit
Really? All the Woodstock’s in the 90s, Jimi Hendrix was huge again, the Beatles rereleased stuff and that was big, acid…
Post grunge and pre 9/11 society splintering, it seemed like a huge “civilization self actualized in the 60s” awareness.
Music and fashion wise I think the 70s were “better” or more enjoyable. But it was like… 1975 Bob Dylan standing on the shoulders of 1965 Bob Dylan.
redditshy@reddit
Totally. We felt like the world was going nowhere but up. Class of 1995 here. I never in a MILLION YEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARS thought that we would be where we are now. I don't blame these kids for being nostalgic for a time they did not live. They know that whatever it was, it was post-Vietnam, and it was pre ... This.
starker@reddit
To be frank, isn’t it up to us to fix this?
redditshy@reddit
Yea. It definitely is.
General-Reserve9349@reddit
We must rebuild. But who will lead us in the rebuilding process?
_inataraxia_@reddit
In ‘93-‘94 I was obsessed with Bob Dylan, VW’s bugs, beaded curtains, paper dresses, mary jane shoes…. This, in turn, rolled into loving grunge, baby doll dresses, platform mary jane shoes… and then I went ‘77 style punk (my final form).
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MiloTheMagnificent@reddit
Your neck of the woods missed all the Beatles rereleases and the Beatles Anthology, the general availability of Beatles posters and shirts and merch, the Stones world tour, the new model of the VW Bug and the popularity of the old school bugs, the “summer of love” retrospections, the Grateful Dead tours still going strong, the reunion tour of The Supremes the bell bottom pants, the first Austin Powers movie, the “rediscovery” of Jimi Hendrix and Janis Joplin? None of that happened for you?
Colonial13@reddit (OP)
Nope. Just to make sure I wasn't losing my mind about this I pulled out my old yearbook this morning and flipped through it. I couldn't find a single picture that had anyone remotely dressed like the 60's, no Beatles quotes, nothing. I have no doubt that stuff was big (based on all the other responses) but where I was, it didn't make much of a ripple.
Old-Piece-3438@reddit
I remember tie dye and bell bottoms and some other things. Plus they had another Woodstock (maybe two more?). Me and my friends talked about wanting to go but we were like 14 and were definitely not allowed to. 😂
EatLard@reddit
You dodged a bullet if one of those you missed was Woodstock ‘99.
Selmarris@reddit
Uh I wanted to live in the 70s. I bought the same pair of vintage shoes my dad had in high school. I went to see the WHO in concert. I grew out my hair long and straight and wore it like a hippie.
crackedtooth163@reddit
Im black, my mom is VERY light skinned as is her mom(grandma), my dad and his mother are very dark skinned.
Veeeeeeeery different experiences in that time period, especially with both parents being immigrants. No real nostalgia for either of them outside of music
ElectricMilk426@reddit
"...I wish it was the sixties
I wish I could be happy
I wish, I wish
I wish that something would happen..."
Radiohead - The Bends (1995)
GladosPrime@reddit
Like agent Smith said, 1999 was peak human civilization
Xx_SwordWords_xX@reddit
Yeah.
Stop being so judgmental and just let her be. It's harmless, and she's likely pining because she's distressed with the state of the world, today.
Instead of judging and analyzing, you could just indulge her, and open up a conversation about the deeper issues behind this longing or admiration, for a time she never lived.
With that said, in the 90s I was thrifting for 70s fashion, and obsessed with the doors and Jim Morrison.
Smergmerg432@reddit
There’s a German word for this I think: you miss a place you’ve never visited. I think what happens is there is a part of how that place is represented that mirrors something in your past you miss. Kids don’t have as much freedom these days in schools—but maybe it’s something else entirely
catsoncrack420@reddit
Happening with the young generation mine too. Reminds me of my middle school teacher telling us fashion repeats always every 20-30 yrs.
PersianCatLover419@reddit
Now I want to watch these videos and see how accurate they are.
I was sort of imitating 1960s and 1970s fashion as a teen but I would go to lots of concerts such as the dead, phish, Allman brothers, etc.
twineandtwig@reddit
I loved “Dazed and Confused” and felt like I should’ve been a teen in the ‘70’s so can relate. My friend’s teen daughter has commandeered her clothes from the 1990’s and early aughts. I think it happens a lot.
TransAmericaExplorer@reddit
I graduated in ‘99 and spent all of high school and college telling anyone who would listen “I was born in the wrong decade!” 😅😅 This is definitely not a new phenomenon!
Inevitable_Tone3021@reddit
I was born in 1980 and I have this faux-nostalgia for the 60s & 70s. My house is all vibrate furniture & decor, and I wear a lot of vintage clothes. It’s more than just an aesthetic, it’s a lifestyle.
Some of the Gen Z girls I work with wear a lot of 90s / early 2000s clothes, which I guess is their generation’s version of me. There’s always a few vintage appreciators around.
Fappy_as_a_Clam@reddit
I must be the odd ball here, because when I grew up in the 90s, I had no fascination with the 60s, 70s, or 80s. I never liked the music or the clothing, and only some of the movies.
I thought the 90s pretty much kicked ass, and I still do.
seafox77@reddit
I mean, to be fair, the last day of school in 1996 was pretty wild.
I assure you, lots of kids in the 90s and early 00s were nostalgic to the point of melancholy for the late 60s and early 70s. Especially rough households, shunned kids, misfits, and the disaffected; it's easier to escape to "born in the wrong decade" at that age.
But also a lot of trendsetters too. The artist kids often looked to the past for inspiration, theater kids that went method for "Hair". Who I guess are outliers too, just for less depressed reasons.
Every generation's teenagers get bored with the, especially American, more restrictive and consumer oriented zeitgeist of their own age.
Vintage_Visionary@reddit
THIS. From the Beatles to Janis Joplin, to Led Zeppelin and more. I remember thinking that current music couldn't compare.
AquariusRising1983@reddit
Still can't, man. I love the music from the 90s when I was a kid/teen but the music from the 60s and 70s is just so fucking good. No other decades have shit on it. My Boomer parents think it's funny that I know more about music and pop culture from when they were growing up than they do.
Intelligent-Search88@reddit
Yep, in the 90s I loved the Beatles and Zeppelin, Hendrix, Cream, etc.. Now in 2025, I’m going to Oasis reunion shows.
dreamyduskywing@reddit
Agree 100%. More specifically, I think the late 60’s/early 79’s was peak.
Aware_Policy_9174@reddit
I definitely went through a 60s/70s phase, and I’m only realizing now that I mixed the two decades together somewhat while thinking it was just the 60s the same way kids now are mixing the 90s and 2000s together. I found my mom’s old records and made tapes off of them. I wore vintage clothes from thrift stores. I wished I’d been at Woodstock.
turntabletennis@reddit
My oldest daughter is wildly into the 80s and 90s, she's even collecting vinyl records. My youngest listens to Weezer and Nirvana, lol
Life is funny
Competitive-Safe-452@reddit
I think part of it is because we didn't have social media, it was a simpler time in a lot of ways. But I remember thinking my parents were so cool because they grew up in the 60's.
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redbeardscrazy@reddit
Nostalgia seems to be a different thing than it used to be. I wrap myself in it like a warm blanket sometimes. Sometimes to the point where I have to be careful about it, I feel like it's weaponized somehow, even if just by corporations selling our own nostalgia back to us. I'm an only child, born in '80 to hippy parents. Have always loved the 60's and 70's (that I wasn't there for) and dug that it was cool again in the 90's when I was in HS, but that was never the wistful sort of nostalgia I feel now for times I lived through and like it seems like you're saying your daughter is feeling.
DanzigsLacyPanties@reddit
I did this too, but it was more like wanting to have been alive during punk/post-punk starting, so around 1977-1983 or so (Born in the late 70s). Also realized very quickly that it would have meant that I would have gone through the initial stages of HIV/AIDS infections, so I'm grateful that I really wasn't a young adult then since most of the guys back then did not survive (speaking as a gay man). If you recall the scene in Ghost World where the girl is like, "It's obviously a 1977 original punk rock look", yes, I most certainly cringed because that was 100% me in 1997.
Zero_Imacat@reddit
I was only nostalgic for art & entertainment of the 60's and 70's, but to to live in that era. I was well aware of the hardships, The Vietnam War, second wave of the women's rights movement, etc. So i didn't want to live in that time period.
However this generation, I feel like wants to experience the 90's in a social sense. To know what it's like to grow up without smart phones, an easy access to technology. The 90's was a sweet spot in time, where there was still a sense of community. We still had to put effort into our daily lives without relying on our devices.
LakeEffectSnow@reddit
Are you aware of the band The Grateful Dead, and how popular they were in the 90's partially for this reason?
geekgirlwww@reddit
Just because you can’t relate doesn’t mean it’s valid. How about just letting her like things and talking about it with her without judgement?
kellyasksthings@reddit
I wanted to be a teenager in the 70s so hard when I was a kid, I just knew I was meant to be a hippie. I got a bunch of second hand clothes my friends mum wore when she was a teenager, and my life was made. It’s easier to be nostalgic for any time other than the one you live in bc you can remember the good and forget the bad. I’m sure there would have been plenty about the 70s that I would have hated if I actually lived then, too.
redditshy@reddit
Totally. And the 1970s were pretty bleak, too. All the loss of the Vietnam War, inflation, gas lines, the President of the US being kicked out of office for being a dirtbag, the awakening regarding the environment, the ozone layer, concerns of acid rain. Our brains are evolved to remember the past fondly, and let go of pain. It is a fascinating analgesic.
BrianJPugh@reddit
Your right about using the 70's to demonstrate this. Compared to decades before, and after it, there isn't really much of anything that is nostalgia worthy. We get the rise of hard rock and some good movies, but a lot of other things died off in the early 70's though (like muscle cars and moon landings). Even the movies of the time have a lot of tough times grit to them. It wasn't until the end of the decade that the computer revolution took off, but that didn't hit the mainstream until the 80's.
My parents were teens and graduated in the 70's. They never talk about anything happening at that time, good or bad. They also grew up in mostly rural Indiana along I-70 so not completely rural so there is probably some shielding.
Rare-Airport4261@reddit
I still feel this way! I've always felt it was the era I was supposed to be a teen in, and I'm still really drawn to a lot of 70s music and aesthetics. Most homes when I was very smalll still had 70s decor, so I wonder if it's partly that nostalgia for early childhood when things were much simpler, and memories of family Christmases etc.
Hefty_Macaroni6288@reddit
I’ve always been like that, but understanding and experiencing what it was like in the past is much more accessible these days because the technology to record was more accessible, and now more accessible to view via YouTube and the amount of people reminiscing on socials. As a kid I loved seeing and hearing about the 50s, but you had to go searching for it at a thrift store or an attic somewhere.
Wyldawen@reddit
It's funny that people who are nostalgic for the time period before phone addiction won't just put their phone away.
Unable_Apartment_613@reddit
You must not remember very well then. It was 1960s nostalgia for us, and plenty of people said they wished they had lived back then. Your daughter wanting to live right before smart phones really makes a lot of sense. The kids know these things are poison.
Trout788@reddit
Gen Z seems to crave a more disconnected life. My kiddo has been wanting a non-phone camera for a long time. Nothing fancy--just a pocket camera like we carried in the early 2000s. A CampSnap is preordered for Christmas. I know I'm glad to have avoided experiencing my teen years with the pressure of social media, much less wedding planning and early years of parenting. It was really a different world. No constant comparison, school drama could stay at school, we looked like teens and didn't care to compare ourselves to people all over the world, we had pre-9/11 societal levels of optimism, etc.
username11585@reddit
Ive read of this happening a lot. Them watching those videos. I honestly think they’re amazed at watching a time without cell phones. When everyone is looking at each other, interacting with each other instead of looking down. It’s foreign for them. Doesn’t seem real.
Nipplasia2@reddit
I mean in the 90's I would wish I was growing up in the 70's. I still sometimes wish I could have been old enough back in those days.
likesexonlycheaper@reddit
Can you blame her with what the world is like now? I'd go back to the 90s in a heart beat
chappyfu@reddit
oh yeah I remeber raiding my parents old clothes boxes for 60and 70s era clothing. I remeber wearing bell bottoms and tie dye every day in middle school. I wanted a lava lamp so bad. It also didn't helkp the Auton Powers came out then too. I was all about the the swinging 60s baby!
Giftgenieexpress@reddit
I used to wear vintage 60’s in the 90’s I absolutely felt like I was born in the wrong era
imtooldforthishison@reddit
I mean.... we had hippies when I was in high school so... every generation has a group of kids that are throwback "I should have been born...." kids.
mondomiketron@reddit
lol def knew ppl in high school that wished they were born in previous decades
SplakyD@reddit
I actually kinda wished that I'd been around for the fun debauchery of the 70's when I was in high school because I loved so much of the music, movies, and culture; even though I was relatively straight edge back then. It just seemed like they had a relative consequence free fun attitude that was such a huge contrast to all the responsibility and consequences of the era we lived in that had AIDS and gang violence, even if that was a misconception of the era. I recognized that we had a unique culture in the 90's, but it seemed serious and we didn't really know how to see ourselves in the post-Cold War world we found ourselves in. Of course, then we just recreated our own debauched fun decade post-9/11 and went harder than they did. We just didn't have a Studio 54.
Dumphdumph@reddit
I thought the hippies from the ‘60’s were having all the segs when I was a teen and I was so jealous
yourmom46@reddit
You can absolutely grieve for something you never had. Just search that on Google and you'll come up with all kinds of sites for counseling and therapy. Take it seriously and talk to her about it. She's clearly upset about something. Like the other commenter said, use this as an opportunity for connection. Maybe you can find a way to help her.
mangocalrissian@reddit
I just learned recently that this is called "anemia", a nostalgia for a time or place one has never known.
Yikes0nBikez@reddit
We also didn't live our entire existence online where that was an "authentic" experience. If you can't separate what is a lived emotional experience from an influenced or vicarious experience, you may need to reduce your screen time.
RavenWritingQueen@reddit
It was not all sunshine and roses. The school shootings took off then. There were stupid pagers. AIDS was still a deadly disease. We had the worst act of domestic terrorism at Oklahoma City. It's common for nostalgia to occur. People always think things were better in the past.
jcargile242@reddit
My kid is the same. There’s a word for it - anemoia.
Global-Discussion-41@reddit
Kids in the 90s didn't have nostalgia for a previous better time because the 90s were still pretty great (for most people)
ItsDarwinMan82@reddit
I can remember in 1996/1997 I bought a lava lamp and was heavy into 1960s/70s music and wearing bell bottoms.
memilygiraffily@reddit
When I was a 90s teen I wanted badly to have grown up in the 70s. I felt like I was a flower child that had been born into the wrong decade.
PhysicsStock2247@reddit
I was just watching the original Scream movie from 1996 and there’s a line delivered by Ghostface, "What are you doing with a cellular telephone, Son?" It must be a trip for younger generations to watch teen movies from that time period and see a world that doesn’t revolve around social media and other modern trappings. I can totally understand why that would be comforting.
Global-Jury8810@reddit
I spent the year 1996 pretending like I lived in the year 1982 after watching It Came From the 80s on MTV.
realdevtest@reddit
Why would you call this weird? It’s completely normal
Ok-Pin6704@reddit
Growing up in the 80s and 90s…. We had full on 1950s sock hops and watched Grease obsessively…. We wore bell bottoms and grooved to the Beatles and brought back Woodstock…. That 70s Show was a huge hit….
It always trips me out to think about it, but basically the Beatles were to me what Nirvana is to kids these days…
VectorJones@reddit
Can't really blame her. She came into the world just as smartphones robbed us of life in the moment, and now has to be a teen in the age of AI slop. She's got to find a way to survive in a time of civilization on the decline, and even if she does that, she knows that climate change is poised to cast a destructive pall over everything be by the time she's our age.
I wouldn't want to be coming up in the world under such malaise either. At least we still had cause for hope in a better future in the '90s. Kids today, not so much.
thefluxster@reddit
Exactly this. My GenZ kids are absolutely right in wishing they had been able to enjoy life without these soul crushing realities. For them, they pick being older than me but still in the 90s. I really can't blame them for wishing for something else than what they inherited on this planet, regardless of decade.
Nerdmom7@reddit
I was into 70s vibes for a while- born in the 80s. My daughter likes 80s style and she was born in 2010. It’s not so much nostalgia as liking the style in our case.
Powerful_Leg8519@reddit
They can also watch videos from that time at the drop of a hat. We had to watch movies or find our parents old tapes if they had any.
But there was a whole wave of 60s/70s nostalgia in my area. That and a crap ton of swing.
zjuka@reddit
Looking back, everything looks so much simpler, cleaner and idealistic, because nostalgia is heavily curated by concentrating on positive aspects and ignoring negative ones. People who commented about wishing to live in 60s or 70s didn’t really think about recession, segregation, women’s rights, poverty and energy crisis. Their nostalgia is for music, fashion and simpler times.
I was born in Soviet Union, and it’s mind boggling to me that there some teens there that are pining for the Soviet Union, but their nostalgia comes from heavily curated Soviet movies, and not the poverty, lack of free speech and oppressive regime my parents ran away from.
junepath@reddit
I definitely wanted to live in the 70s while a teen in the 90s. But I also have a soft spot for the 90s in retrospect.
My daughter has definitely been engaging with a lot of late 90s/early aughts media. Homestar Runner is really big in our house right now.
RogerMiller6@reddit
That’s awesome… First I’ve heard of kids getting into HR! That was obscure even back then. How old is she? Also, HR has a pretty solid subreddit, if you haven’t seen it.
junepath@reddit
She’s 12! I was a huge HR fan back in the day and had made my husband Trogdor and Teen Girl Squad shirts and she was curious and now here we are!
Dang_It_All_to_Heck@reddit
I’m in my 60s. As a teen, I longed for the 40s. Collected and wore the vintage clothes, listened to the music (but also did the typical 70s stuff).
People who DID grow up in the 40s just laughed because it was a difficult time for everyone.
IceSmiley@reddit
What's faux about it? You mentioned how our generation has 70s nostalgia and That 70s Show was popular.v
blondie0389@reddit
My daughter is the exact same way! 🤣
faderjockey@reddit
There’s a lot of advertising and media right now that is trying to sell nostalgia to US. We have moved into the target demographic of the manufactured nostalgia hype cycle.
That fact hit me particularly hard when my town opened up the first alt-rock / grunge THEME RESTAURANT. Exactly the vibe of those faux 50’s burger joints, but with a 90’s grunge overlay (and overly complex sushi creations instead of burgers.)
If your daughter is like mine, she’s at just the right age and consumes enough media to catch all the high octane manufactured nostalgia-bait that’s being fired in our direction.
It’s advertising, baby! Always has been.
ghostsintherafters@reddit
Everything is crumbling around her and you wonder why she wishes she was born in a different timeframe? I'm 47 and the way shit is currently hitting the fan I wish I was born 20/30 years earlier too
Mountain-Fox-2123@reddit
Sounds like anemoia and not faux nostalgia to me
Faux Nostalgia is an aesthetic involving media and archived history that never existed.
Anemoia the feeling of nostalgia towards a time that you never lived.
blind_curve@reddit
I was definitely obsessed with the 60s and 70s as a teen. The music, fashion, politics, media. I was convinced I was born in the wrong time. Now that I'm an adult I see that there was really no better time to grow up than the late 80s and early 90s.
Nukkeeva@reddit
For me, I definitely felt nostalgia for the 70s even though it was before I was born. Part of the reason being that so many people still had 70s cars, houses, furniture, decor, music, hair, and fashion in the 80s (and some for many more decades later). I remember attending birthday parties in wood panelled, shag carpetted basements. I remember all the long-haired shirtless dads in jeans and bandanas.
Your daughter remembers the 90s in the same way. It wasn’t erased in the noughts, it was transitioned away through the following decades.
RoboJ1M@reddit
Honestly something's gone awfully askew in the last few decades.
Especially post COVID, it's like nobody goes outside or talks to each other anymore over here.
Worst thing is nobody reads their text messages anymore.
Ever.
DifferentJaguar@reddit
Maybe she’s subconsciously trying to connect with you? See what things were like you when her parent was younger?
cranberries87@reddit
I don’t think this is weird or unusual. I remember being fascinated by the 50s back in the 90s. I wore a poodle skirt and saddle shoes one Halloween, asked my mom and dad about the 50s all the time. If we had had YouTube I probably would have watched videos too.
runhomejack1399@reddit
Isn’t this a well known thing
DerpaNet3000@reddit
It's the 20 year fashion cycle. In the 90s references were to the 70s. In the early 2000s some 80s elements came back in fashion.
20 years is just enough for the kids to not have lived through it so it becomes an "obscure reference"
kittibear33@reddit
I wished I lived in the 80s for a while. I was born 1990. lol
plotthick@reddit
Longing is a beautiful thing in humans. We all long for what we don't, can't, or haven't ever had. Lunch, peace, a friend who's died, a time we perceive as better: longing is essential. How quickly do we get bored of a thing we finally acquire? And yet we can long for years. It's an essential part of human nature.
What a beautiful thing your daughter has created for herself, longing for a simpler time.
ltlpunk@reddit
Yes, absolutely. I graduated HS in 93. I remember Woodstock 94 coming at a time where folks were questioning what we were doing in Kuwait much like folks questioning what we were doing in Vietnam. A lot of the style and culture of the Vietnam era became popular again in the early-mid 90s. Definitely had a whole group of folks in my high school that lived in the nostalgia for an era we didnt live in but we felt connected to.
playfulwarning@reddit
I was a teen in the early 90s and I ABSOLUTELY loved 70's pop culture!
Key-Leading-3717@reddit
The best thing about being a Xennial is that you lived and thrived in a time before all the bullshit took over everything. The worst part is that we were on the front lines and are only seeing in retrospect how harmful social media is to society.
zignut66@reddit
As a gay guy, I have a nostalgia for 70s NYC and SF even though I’ve never lived during those times. Photos are enough to make me wish I had. Though I’d probably not have lived past the 80s if I had, so there’s that…
TurdFerguson2OOO@reddit
Hellooooo, That 70s show and VH1s i love the 70s/80s/90s series. They were a hit because parents wanted nostalgia and we longed for that time.
carneviva@reddit
I thrifted nearly all my clothing from 96-98 while I was a teenager in high school. The 70s were big then and I was all about bell-bottoms, patterned collard shirts, and platforms/clogs.
Nowadays my kid (10f) is obsessed with 90s/2000s fashion too. Always tells me how she wishes she were born during that time, etc. What I find interesting is how she feels a sense of loss of time and youth although she still is heavily dependent on technology. Too young to recognize how technology is the machine disconnecting her from reality yet inciting a sense of nostalgia for a time she never experienced.
LittleSubject9904@reddit
This is totally normal.
graveybrains@reddit
We did try recreate Woodstock at least twice
Holmes221bBSt@reddit
She’ll get over it. A lot of kids of every generation did this. It seems she wishes for a simpler time in which technology didn’t rule everyone’s lives. She feels she missed out on what she perceives to be an experience that is better than what she’s getting today.
I’ve have a fb friend who is obsessed with the 50’s and wishes she grew up then
jackfaire@reddit
How old is your daughter? I had a huge desire to live in the 70s because I was born in late 80 and my parents were teens in the 70s. Our house was still steeped in 70s culture until I was 5. I didn't have conscious memories of their love of the 70s but found huge comfort in the era in my own teens
kurt667@reddit
Yeah 90s stuff was the best, are you surprised she likes it better then current crap???? lol…
alohareddit@reddit
Y2K fashion is definitely a thing / mainstream and I hate being reminded that 2000 was a quarter century ago.
elkniodaphs@reddit
We're all on different paths, but I believe the xennial experience consisted largely of growing up with stuff from before our birth—Looney Tunes, Gilligan's Island, Batman, and so many others. This was a concept idealized and successfully platformed on Nick at Nite. Let's not forget that this is normal.
BlueProcess@reddit
In the 90s people generally renewed to romanticize the 50s. Unless they dug the whole hippie thing, in which case it was the 60s. Of course everyone conveniently forgot about the bad parts. Just like your daughter does
Sumeriandawn@reddit
There are still lots of people romanticizing the 50s
arcanix1981@reddit
All of my kids love all things 90s and have since…as long as I can remember? The music, movies, the lifestyle.
In their words the modern life of young adults is “exhausting and depressing.”
shayshay8508@reddit
I was (and still am) obsessed with classic rock (the OG classic rock.)! I used to say how much I wished I was alive during Woodstock and the hippies. Both of my parents found it funny…but dad loved the fact I was into his music.
CraigGrade@reddit
As a 90s kid I remember it was very common to have wished you lived in the 60s 70s or even 80s. Find some more personal media (camcorder footage, Kodak photos) to share with her about the time.
CheesyRomantic@reddit
When I was a teen in the 90s I definitely wanted to have experienced being a teen in the 60s/70s.
The music, the fashion, the feeling of a revolution almost… of course I was too naive and ignorant to realize all the bad that happened… which is still happening minus the great music.
lucidguppy@reddit
Late 70s early 80s were really good music wise. Sure the politics sucked... and the economy sucked... and there was acid rain... and smog... and a whooooooooooooole lot of racism... and nuclear destruction... and vast destruction of habitat for yet to be created urban sprawl... we only think about the good things. Maybe we think about those times and a desire to go back so we can change things for the better.... that should make us want to do better now.
ArchSchnitz@reddit
There's been a push of "back in the day" style media recently, glorifying pre-smart phone, pre-social media days.
Which, fine, okay... except I'm watching them on my smart phone from social media. Objectively, my life in the 2020s has mostly (some terms and caveats required) been better than the 90s. I had more free time then, I have more money and luxury now.
Imagine, in the 90s all my hobby stuff was confined to one comic book store on my side of town, one on the far side of town, in an area that had roughly 160,000 people. Eventually, we had three or four shops right before I left for college.
Now, there's one comic shop in each town near me, and further specialty stores for niche interests within it. For instance, we have a collectible toy store, a vintage console store and a tabletop game store, as well as a (sometimes open) comic store within an area of roughly 30,000 people.
It's super easy to find my niche hobbies now. I wouldn't trade this for any amount of nostalgia.
often_awkward@reddit
I don't think there's anything wrong with longing for a simpler time like back in the 90s when we didn't know what we didn't know.
KnifeFightAcademy@reddit
Call your daughter a 'poser' and flip your fringe. That'll show her!
karatechop97@reddit
60s and 70s music made a huge comeback with teens in the 90s. My friends and I were all listening to the Doors, Hendrix, CCR, Grateful Dead etc. Coincided with MTV’s promotion of the Woodstock 25 festival. This stuff is all cyclic,
CrazyIrina@reddit
Easy way to wake her up is to have her wear L'eggs for a week and drive an Oldsmobile for a week, too.
badteach248@reddit
When I was a teenager I thought the 60's was my real time. I even tried to copy some fashion...wouldn't you know it, a bunch of other teens felt the same way.
imascoobie@reddit
I've heard about young people romanticizing a time before smartphones that they never knew.
Illustrious-Low3948@reddit
I understand them. It is difficult to find real connection, it to be in the moment when you are in company. Everything feels so rushed these days.
worksnake@reddit
I had faux nostalgia for the late 1960s when I was younger. But there was a ceiling to how much you could indulge it. Now, not nearly as much.
Planetofthought@reddit
There's a word for that, but I callboy fauxstalgia. My 16 year old is all into it and has been for years. He loves 80s and 90s movies, grunge, and now...get this...he's into yacht rock!
SaveusJebus@reddit
I knew a couple of kids in HS that wished they were alive in the hippy era.
Intelligent_Owl_377@reddit
Omg, my teen always wants to dress in 90s fashion, and I have to explain it wasn't as iconic as other decades. I did get a plaid flannel hoodie to tie around her waist, though. Lol.
Pard22@reddit
I think a lot of the fondness is due to the parents. I remember my mom would always be playing her music when I was a kid. I find myself doing that as well around my kids.
impliedapathy@reddit
Everyone I knew back then wanted to have been able to experience Woodstock (not the 90s disaster). Instead we all wore our flared pants and corduroys
nerdkraftnomad@reddit
I wanted to experience '77 punk, firsthand.
Similar_Tie3291@reddit
That’s not weird.
datbackup@reddit
It was the most modern (therefore relatable) time before smart phones and social media had seeped into everything. The lack of phones, alone, might be enough for me to be sympathetic but then add the fact of everything being permanently remembered and made public… the youth today are right to want something else
Vox_Mortem@reddit
I so wanted to have been a teenager in the early 80s, but instead I was born ten years too late. Now I wish I could be a decade younger.
Glass-Marionberry321@reddit
I totally wished I lived in the 60s and went to OG Woodstock.
teenytinytexas@reddit
I wanted to live in the 70s and 80s. I mean I was alive in the 80s but I clearly remember wishing I had been a teen in both decades. Also had a similar thing for the 50s and 60s at various times.
Katzeye@reddit
My sister was obsessed with the 60’s culture the late 80’s when she was a mid teen. I was teaching at an art school in the early 00’s and half the women dressed as Pat Benetar and the other half was Madonna. There is a constant revisionist retro cycle in society.